@Snowed,
Snowed wrote:
He feels he doesn't have any privacy in this marriage.
Everyone needs some privacy. Maybe you're too suspicious.
Snowed wrote:He feels that couples shouldn't have to divulge everything to their spouse all the time.
I agree with him. Not everything is up for grabs. If I'm having lunch with a girlfriend because she's having marital problems, it's none of his business. And if he did ask me, I'd say, "it's private", and that's the end of that.
Snowed wrote:When his text message alert goes off and he doesn't tell me who it is I get nervous and suspicious.
Why do you get "nervous and suspicious"? When my husband's on the phone or his text thingy goes off, I don't ask him what it was about. Why would I? And he doesn't ask, "who was that?" either. Trust is a marvellous thing.
Snowed wrote:I'll ask him who that was and his normal response was, "it was for me not for you."
Sad. Really. It's sad. You have 3 ways of dealing with your lives: 1) Live the way you have in a dysfunctional, non-trusting way... 2) Get counselling ... or 3) separate and ruin someone else's live(s).