@engineer,
- Is he contributing his fair share to the household?
The bills are getting paid. We have divided them up.
- If he was doing something on the side to make money, would that in some way abrogate your agreement? Is he supposed to contribute more if he makes more?
No, we both from time to time get OT on our jobs so as long as there's money in the account for bills there's not a problem.
- Buying toiletries and food items doesn't break the bank, are there major purchases you are concerned about?
Nope, no major purchases but when he says he doesn't have any money I take that to mean he has no funds in his account.
- Are you two spending time together or are you concerned that he is off spending money on someone else?
We spend most of our time together other than when he's out running an errand or hanging with his family.