Sat 10 Apr, 2021 06:19 pm
Ive been married to my husband for almost 2 years... it was very obvious from the very beginning he had a foot fetish ... at first it was really a turn on .. i had never been with someone with a foot fetish and i just so happened to be someone who takes really good care if there feet... he would lick them bite them smell them.. you think it he did it.. from that it turned into him wanting my dirty socks in his face or on his weiner directly... right when i got home from work .. he even had a favorite pair. Im very open minded to all things and went along with it... over time our sex went from 100 to 1... he would get off and roll over and go to sleep ... he would poke me and put me in top then push me off and pass out ... he would masturbate in the other room next to me to poctures of other womans feet... instead of me... i would find my crusty socks hidden in the couch or under the bed and we wouldnt have sex for a week ..so i stopped trying to be apart of his fetish because it didnt seem like he cared about my needs ... recently i went through his phone because his bahaviors were odd ... i found him trying to figure out how to open a p.o box to send other womans dirty socks to hisself ... i was sickened ... we just had a baby 6 months ago so my feelings about myself were alrrady in shambles ..after i found that the sex did get better and i gave into his foot fetish because he was giving into my needs... we had a really deep conversation and he promised he was done doing that and that i was all he needed and wanted and he found me very attractive and all that... two days later i found him searching womans dirty socks on facebook ... i confronted him and he swears he didnt but the proof is right there .... i dont know what to do. I dont know if its considered cheating or if his fetish is that severe ... im just at a loss and im very embarrassed and need some help
I'm sorry this is happening.
I think it's less a question of cheating (I suppose only you can really decide that), versus he was caught in a lie and hasn't owned up to it.
This is more than a fetish. It is an addiction. And it is affecting the marriage and causing him to lie and ( emotionally) cheat on you. Plus he is now full of shame and hiding.
Counseling is a must here. For him and for you two together.
Ive always struggled with couseling myself throughout life it never helped personally but i have been contemplating doing marriage couseling but i dont know how to go about approaching him with that because he too struggles with couseling and never last in it more than a month. He does have a super addictive personalitly he was addicted to spice for over half his life. Recently got sober when he seen his son born . Its hard to get him to see my side if things. Porn was a big thing too i would find hours of it in his phone . Im not against porn in any way I personally dont use it because im married and when i need something inuse my husband .. but after all this and him watching porn everyday and the type .. im just at a loss . I dont want my marriage to end but this has truly sent me on a spiral.