@Baker67,
@ Baker67
#1 ..... The female is scared to death that she may get pregnant ....
Scared to death and who can blame her? She is the one who might be carrying 'the can' for the rest of her life. Many males just run away.
In my world then the first thing I would say is that this should teach you a fundamental life lesson ....
Do not go sticking your penis into people for idle sport. Indeed, avoid it at all costs or go for anal, then at least you cannot get them pregnant. This is not either a moral or religious standpoint, I have none and do not believe in that ... Rather it is pure pragmatism.
Now of course you have created a
seriously nasty issue, because if she is pregnant and it is your activity which caused it .... then you are of course jointly fiscally responsible until the child is 18yr old .... plus if that child is brought to term then until you die you are a father and even if you ignore it all; then you are emotional and so that will never let you sleep well. Because that child will I assure you, will want you to be a text book/fairytale father to them .. That is a given set in stone.
Before I met and married my wife, I had never impregnated anyone and was
DAMNED CAREFUL not to. Once my wife and I had our two planned children 18 months apart, then we were
both immediately sterilised to ensure no mistakes.
In my time I have met several ladies who have had abortions and my take away from it is that in the dark of the night, not one of them had truly recovered. Abortion is an emotional scar so deep that it never leaves them. Abortion is for the female
never an easy option. You seem to me, to be unpleasantly unaware of this reality.
To anyone in your position I would say 'silly boy' or something more colloquial ...... if you get away with it this time, if she is (was) not pregnant .... Then learn 100% not to do it again and if that means forswearing all coitus ... Then so be it.
Because if she is pregnant and she keeps it ... Congrats, you have just
screwed your life up with a child that you probably do not want, via a woman you definitely do not want. Plus, you will of course screw up your own child's life.
Myself I found early fatherhood until they were maybe 16yr old, distinctly 'challenging'. As did my wife, because she is not a natural mother in many ways. But we have a 100% unfaltering rock solid relationship, we agreed 100% on how to bring the children up.
Further we were fiscally comfortable so there was zero issue for the children. They were loved and cared for, with every possible opportunity provided them .... Indeed both are now PhD's and happy, balanced adults.
Your child if it exists, with this female, will not have that start to life it appears and I doubt that end .... So the only sympathy I have here, is with the possible foetus. Not your or the female.
Do be aware this post is not 'Look at me' ... No this post is look at yourself @Baker67 ..... Because my wife and I got it right and how do you find yourself measuring up?
If you don't like the answer, then don't ask on an open forum is my advice.