Helicopter Parents never told me anything now I am confused about what I am.

I am very sorry and apologise profusely for any assumptions of mistakes I make in this questions.

So first and for most I have to clarify that I love my parents and I respect them. So my parents are helicopter parents, they know my YouTube history, search history, who my friends are pretty much everything except one thing. My kindle fire which is what I am using to post on here. To give you some background on this I had no idea lgbtq even existed. I only found out when I saw the movement for gay marriage in my country on the news. Then I got a three hour long conversation with my parents about it. Then for a couple years I didn't really think about it, I though lgbtq people where really rare and I probably wouldn't meet one. Then I moved schools and I made some friends, my friend group where discussing sexuality one day and I realized there was so much I didn't know. Strange words where thrown around such as queer, Pansexual, Lesbian, Asexual ext. I had no idea what these words meant and I so I asked them. They where also confused and when I explained about my parents they explained stuff as best as they could but it was difficult. I had made some big assumptions. For one I thought only gay people where a thing and a female couldn't love a female. My mind was completely blown when I found out lesbians where a thing. In particular I talked a lot with two particular girls. One was Pansexual and the other was bi? I am still not completely sure what either of those words mean. Like the girl who is bi says I can uses feminine and they them pronouns and now I am incredibly confused. She has a girl's name but she doesn't really look like a girl like her hairstyle is really short which wouldn't mean anything by itself but she also acts sometimes like a girl and sometimes like a boy. I'm so confused. Well anyway we where discussing and they said that what I was describing about myself was similar to an Asexual person. They said that that means that you don't want to be in a relationship with anyone. I though that at least sort of made sense. They said I could identify as questioning for now as I wasn't sure. So a couple months later I discovered a fetishes that I liked. I wasn't going attention it here but I decided to as it might make a difference. Well... I'm into ABDL. Particularly the diaper part. I'm not sure why, and I have never tried a diaper on mostly because I live with my parents and I don't know how I would keep that a secret. I just find the idea comforting and safe, I have used a pillow to do something which I am not sure but I think it might have been an orgasm? It didn't really do much and I pretty much gave up on that endeavour but I still do it occasionally. Can you be Asexual and still have a fetish? I don't feel like I want to be in a relationship with anyone. In the past I have had crushes on two boys. But looking back I think both sides of the relationship where pressured by our friends into it and neither party was really into it. I'm just really confused. My parents, and I quote have said "if you ever come out as lesbian we will still support you." That sounds great, then less then a mouth later we where having dinner and started ranting about how "this lgtbqzui or whatever people don't really have a different sexuality they are just faking it so they can feel different." I feel like I am getting different messages. And they constantly go on about how they can't wait to have grandkids. (I should mention that I have a younger brother, he is convinced he will live at home playing video games for the rest of his live and never get a girlfriend. Not sure what to make of him) I feel like if I come out as Asexual (if that is even what I am) then I might be denying them the chance to have grandkids. I'm so confused. Ok one other thing, not sure if its relevant but through my exploration of the internet I have accidentally seen both a man's parts and a female's parts. Neither was interesting to me in anyway and I actually found it pretty disgusting. Does this mean anything?

Also do I have to label this as NSFW? I'm not really sure how, do I put it in the keywords?