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Not getting as much pleasure from sex help please

 
 
Fri 23 Oct, 2020 11:46 am
Hey im a 38 year old man who has not had sex for nearly 8 years until recently that is.

my last girlfriend was nearly 8 years ago Ive only had 3 in my life im not very good at attracting girls or even reading them as to weather they like me or not im quite a shy nervous person so im not massively experienced.

Having said that when I have had girlfriends and when we have had sex I really enjoyed it especially oral! I remember the orgasms from oral being mid blowing and sex orgasm were also great.

so fast forward 8 years and I got tired of porn and my hand so I decided to see escorts and all of them have been great all warm friendly and very skilled I even made a nice connection with one of them so im fairly certain its not a nervous or mental issue. I should also explain these are high class escorts not druggie prostitutes from the street these girls enjoy what they do.

So now the problem I just dont have the same sensitivity I used to I still enjoy oral to a degree in fact I have to say stop sometimes from coming to early. The sex is the same enjoyable but not like it was and when orgasm happens I barely feel it I do to a degree but its very underwelming.

This is very upsetting because im paying for it for one thing and also I really want to enjoy it plus if I ever do get another girlfriend I dont want this to happen with someone I have a deep emotional connection with.

Has anyone had any experience with this ? Have I damaged myself with to much masturbation ? Is it my age ? Or something else ? Any help is greatly appreciated thank you.

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Sturgis
 
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Fri 23 Oct, 2020 12:44 pm
@Mike1983,
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...I don't want this to happen with someone I have a deep emotional connection with.


Along with the 8 years of aging, you might have answered your own question. You are not emotionally involved with the escorts, just trying to get some physical contact and sexual release Any future girlfriend would probably include emotional connection, that might tend to the matter of current concern.

It might also be a good time for you to make an appointment to see a medical professional. As we age, our bodies go through changes. A doctor can do you some tests which could rule out any physical issue. Blood pressure, circulation, diabetes mellitus and a few other things may be lurking which are causing sensitivity problems.

Best of luck.

Mike1983
 
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Fri 23 Oct, 2020 05:53 pm
@Sturgis,
Thanks really appreciate the feedback I thought about seeing a doctor seeing one face to face isnt possible right now due to the pandemic but maybe I can do a video call will certainly look into it I am worried its an age thing because if so it not reversable im guessing
maxdancona
 
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Fri 23 Oct, 2020 05:56 pm
@Mike1983,
Age is not reversible, but 38 is not old.

Most likely... you simply don't like sex with escorts. That is the simplest solution to the problem. I don't see any reason to believe it is any more complicated than that.
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maxdancona
 
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Fri 23 Oct, 2020 05:57 pm
If you are unhappy with your sex life, you should always consider talking to a therapist.

I am assuming that eventually you would like to be in a real relationship. Therapy would be a good way to get prepared for this to happen.
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Sturgis
 
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Fri 23 Oct, 2020 06:02 pm
@Mike1983,
Good idea to set up a video call. Depending upon your location, you might be able to go for blood work too.

As to whether or not it's reversible, only the results of medical tests can determine that. Some health issues, once resolved might be the answer. Whether through medication (if you have a blood pressure issue) or change in what you eat. Again these are things a doctor could answer.
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Mike1983
 
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Sat 24 Oct, 2020 05:01 pm
Thanks all really appreciate it I think seeing a doctor will be the answer Im not sure its that I dont enjoy sex with escorts unless its a subconcious thing I mean there all really nice friendly girls and hot too but I will see a doctor first anyway and see what happens with that Smile
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ebmdeuce
 
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Mon 30 Nov, 2020 10:00 pm
@Mike1983,
The older you get as a man psychologically and biologically you change. It seems to me that intimacy and emotional connection will fulfill you more now than when we where younger.
ebmdeuce
 
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Mon 30 Nov, 2020 10:01 pm
@ebmdeuce,
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