Not interested

Is this behavior new? How was it when you were dating?

How well do you know this man?

There is a multitude of possible reasons for that.... alcohol consumption, drug use, cheating, stress, health, depression .... the list goes on and on.

It's possible that some stimulation could help ignite flames. Depending on your and your husband's moral restraints, inhibitions, religious views, etc., such things as watching porn (or even better, making your own porn), inviting a third person to join in a threesome with you, vividly discussing each other's previous sexual encounters, fantasies not yet acted out, etc., may help.

I’m going through the same thing! The lack of being desired is horrible! No medical issue, no porn. After many conversations I now know I need to work on myself and move forward!

Unfortunately, none of the above. Lots of ex issues it seems. Still not sure how to take care of this

We dated for 2 years before marriage. I knew there were issues with the ex-wife, they were married 25 years. But apparently, they weren't very adventurous

Yes I believe you are dealing with his response to his Ex.... It will help you in your enjoyment to make him feel that you want him to have sex with you. It is very damaging to the male ego to not feel wanted about that issue. And He has built a wall of protection to keep from damaging his ego... He says he can take it or leave it - but once you get him feeling like you really want him. He will be much happier and so will you and then he will most likely make you feel that he want you too.