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Sat 9 Jul, 2005 04:48 pm
me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months almost, and this is the first time either of us has a had a relationship. over the past month or so we've really drifted apart, when we talk we seem to argue, but its always about futile matters and the arguments arnt so much arguments as silences.
he tells me he loves me yet sometimes i feel like he doesnt respect me or care how i feel, i know this other guy whose always considerate and kind but my boyfriend seems to just want me to care about him and doesnt want the hassle of asking how i am once in a while. i don't know if i'm still in love with him and i don't know what to do anymore, should i end it or pray we'll grow to love each other properly again?
How old are you and your boyfriend?
im 15 hes 16 were in the same year at school
angelina noted:
Quote:...over the past month or so we've really drifted apart...
Drifting apart is not surprising. Perhaps both of you have changed--perhaps only one of you has changed. You have definitely changed each other and helped each other discover who you are as people and what you want in a romantic relationship.
End your relationship now while you can still make the break gracefully.
"I think we're done, don't you?" would be a start.
Face to face is definitely better than on the telephone.
Personally, I prefer a public or semi public place for discussing touchy personal matters.
Tell your soon-to-be-ex that you've had a wonderful six months with him and he's a terrific fellow, but you've been worried about all the quarreling and sniping that has started between the two of you. Suggest that perhaps a time out would be a good idea.
Explain that you don't have any other guy on your mind, but you think that a summer away from romance would be good for you both.
it all sounds so easy but i saw him yesterday and he's really happy with us. i think the saying love is blind should be changed to love makes you blind.
That is a wise statement. The feeling of love can blind you. But you know what you need to do. Don't tie youself down to a relationship that isn't working.
Angelina-you're wise beyond your years and wise enough to heed good counsel, I'm sure
Ask him how he feels about the sniping and snapping.
You don't have to ditch him--you don't have to keep him, either.
really the choice is yours. But being with someone who you think doesnt like you any more is totally not the sane thing to do. As people say - there's plenty more fish in the sea. You still have the rest of your life and throughout this life you will meat many more boys and maybe someday you will be able to setle down with someone who genuinely cares for you for who you are, not what they want you to be.
i really appreciate all your help, im on msn now and hes just said- are things between us okay? - it's times like this that i don't know what to say.
angelina_papina wrote:i really appreciate all your help, im on msn now and hes just said- are things between us okay? - it's times like this that i don't know what to say.
Say no, actually they aren't. And just tell him that things aren't the same and both of you know that they aren't working anymore. Be honest and kind but be firm.
He thinks things are working, i feel bad, but i know what i have to do. in theory its easy...
Some of the most meaningful moments in life are not easy.
Noddy24 wrote:Some of the most meaningful moments in life are not easy.
<<nodding vigeously>> Childbirth comes to mind...
Bella Dea wrote:
Say no, actually they aren't. And just tell him that things aren't the same and both of you know that they aren't working anymore. Be honest and kind but be firm.
^^ What she said. It will only be hard until its over. You aren't happy about ending it, but it just isn't working for you. It's worse to keep someone hanging on. He already suspects something's up. Go ahead and let him down gently.
caca poopoo. girls have cooties anyways.
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