:/// this was unhelpful and a bit jarring
I will take "jarring" as a compliment. I have a unique perspective on this. But, I was hoping my point of view is at least a little helpful. I am advocating for sex positivity; the idea that sex, and sexual desire are good things that should be enjoyed (by people who want them).
The United States is in the middle of a sexual recession, people are having less sex now than we did in earlier decades. And our society gives us all kinds of mixed messages and reasons that both men and women shouldn't enjoy sex or that the sex they want is somehow bad. I personally believe that we should ignore this. Sex is a natural part of human nature and something that can freely be enjoyed by willing partners.
I kind of agree with Chuck, the most fulfilling sexual relationships are about far more than sex. In a great relationship the sex is only one expression of a real connection between two people.
That being said, sex is important. There is only one person in the world with whom I have sex. I have lots of very good friends with whom I have an emotional bond but I have never had any sexual interest in them... a sexual relationship for me is quite a bit different than a close friendship.