Relationship help needed

Reply Thu 2 Jul, 2020 10:16 am
If you got this or heard this from a woman, what would your thoughts be? Would you see it as being needy? Would you appreciate someone being open and honest? I need help.

"You have such a way of making me feel so good baby. You tell me often that I am beautiful and sexy. Honestly I don’t always feel that way but when you say it I really am able to believe it. Because you make me feel so good, I want you to feel good about being with me too and I don’t feel like you do anymore. I am sensing a change in your energy.

You are a handsome, sexy, and talented man. I care about you so much and I want you to be truly happy. I’m afraid that I am actually making you feel just the opposite. I don’t want you to feel that you have to slowly fade out of my life for fear of hurting me.

If I am picking up the wrong vibe then I am so sorry—please forgive me. But if I’m not, then please know that if you decide to leave or need to leave I will always respect your decision. I will always care about you deeply and will always think you are an amazing man. I don’t want to stop spending time with you but I will understand if that’s what you need to do."
Reply Thu 2 Jul, 2020 10:49 am
I think it says she likes you & wants more of a relationship. It seems you are pushing her away, not communicating your wants/needs/desires and she's tired of waiting for you with no response.

So, start communicating. If you want more, tell her & act like it. If not, tell her & stop all communications.
Reply Thu 2 Jul, 2020 10:55 am
Thank you for your feedback.

To clarify, the she is me. I am trying to communicate to a man I am talking to about a change in his energy and vibe. I want to be respectful and understanding. I don't want to be needy or clingy. Would you respect this communication if you received it?
Reply Thu 2 Jul, 2020 12:30 pm
Obviously, his silence IS his answer. Some people just cannot communicate. If you sent this and received no response, then back off. Totally off.

Life's too short to be chasing someone who doesn't/can't be who you need.

Let him get on with his life and you do yours - without each other.
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Reply Thu 2 Jul, 2020 01:55 pm
It's a good letter, in any case. I would add a question or allude to it, after "energy", about what the issue is. Along the lines of: "Perhaps I did or said something that offended you, perhaps you met someone else, I don't know, but I can feel that something has changed."
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Reply Thu 2 Jul, 2020 03:35 pm
The “she” who wrote this letter has low self esteem. It shows in the way she cancels out her own self worth , but not until she praises his qualities first. Her self doubt if her own strengths and contribution to the relationship is evident.
She demands no respect or explanation, instead apologizes for the intrusion.

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