Is my inexperience a problem?

There's nothing wrong with you. Lots of people want a deeper connection before hopping in the sack.

Does your house of worship or religion have any sort of dating/young people need to meet kind of activities? Can be in person or even an app or a website. That may be a place to start, as you could set an expectation, plus you would have something in common with the other person right off the bat.

I just Googled dating sites for people saving themselves for marriage and came up with a bunch of hits. So that's another thing to try.

1. I am a middle aged man. I would have no problem with this. I don't think your "inexperience" will be an issue with most men.

2. In any serious relationship, communication is very important. If a woman told me that she had never had sex, and that she wanted to take it slow... I would be understanding especially if I saw a future in the relationship.

3. I don't think you should mention this on a dating site. This is something you can talk about after a few dates with someone you want a relationship. The first few dates are generally a time to get to know each other and to see if there is chemistry. After a few dates... if it is going well, you can talk to him and say "I like this relationship and I am serious... I want to talk about this...".

This probably won't be as much of a big deal as you think.

4. It really helps me, as a man, when I know for sure what my partner needs and wants. My advice would be for you to do something thinking about this on your own. What would a sexual relationship mean for you? What do you want in a partner? What do you need to feel comfortable.

If my partner can communicate these things clearly to me, it makes it much easier for me and it also helps me to be patient, respectful and caring.

My dear, you would be weak-willed to fall into line with our present day cultural 'requirements' of assuming that sex is first and foremost. Simply refrain until YOU are certain, not until you can no longer avoid the pressure and intimidation. Rape can involve other than physical intrusion. You are your own person. Retain that right.

I am 70 and gay. - David Lyga

No, of course not! If anything, inexperience is an asset! After all, people who do have "experience" often compare their current rental with others in the past. It is better if two virgins marry. That way, if one is "doing it wrong," the other doesn't know, and won't mind.

Experience is experience. Asking for help is experience. Your "inexperience" is just you being experienced at being your own self. So really, your experience is your problem...