Thanks it’s stressful as he rings me and harasses me.
I told him i have saved to buy my own house.
He likes to control peoples lives. He won’t live on his own as he is scared to.
He won’t do his own shopping or cook his own meals he doesn’t know how to pay bills (that’s what he says when it’s laziness)
If you be assertive with him he just attacks you.
I am sure it is stressful - I do feel for you and it cannot be easy. It is much easier for us to all tell you (what I am sure you already know) what to do - we are not personally involved or impacted by his bullying.
I suggest you stay your course. Just keep reminding yourself what you want and you deserve it. You worked hard to save to buy your own house. As much as possible minimize your contact with him.
Whether he likes it or not or is scared - he should be living on his own - your parents should not have to deal with him.
Do you have any resources you can tap into? I know my place of work has a resource where you can go for advice - this includes legal and other sorts of counseling - no charge. You might benefit from reaching to someone like that and asking what can I do? How can I prevent him from bullying me, and my parents? Is there a way I can help him?
To me your brother needs counseling - but he does not sound like the type that would take kindly to that advice - why I suggest you speak with someone that might guide you on how to handle him - but for your personal benefit and to give you peace of mind so you do not feel guilty for either your parents or your brother.
One think - you cannot change someone - but you can change how you feel and react to them.