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Having gay sex just to feel masculinity?

 
 
Reply Sat 2 May, 2020 03:18 am
Hey all,
I have been struggling with this for a long time. For like 10 years I have been fantasising about and mastrubating to men. However I don’t feel any feelings for them. I have had multiple dates with men but I always regret it. Especially if I feel a man really is gay (I know this sounds weird)

I always fantasise about very masculine alpha males with large ... you know what. I want them to dominate me and surrender to that experience.

I was just writing about it and realised that this masculinity is something my father has never teached me about. He was very insecure. I remember even getting into a fight when I was young so that I could see his strength.

Long story short, I think i might have these sexual encounters to feel the masculinity because I don’t know how to express it myself.

Is there anyone who ever felt the same or that can tell me whether this actually could be true? Thank you so much
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jespah
 
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Reply Sat 2 May, 2020 07:44 am
@Lodewijck,
Don't see any reason why not, seeing as men have straight sex for the same reason.
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JayR
 
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Reply Sun 17 May, 2020 04:32 am
@Lodewijck,
hi Smile
seems to be sort of a psychological thing... have you ever tried to discuss it with a specialist?
our childhood affects our present so much and sometimes it can be helpful to sort out your feelings about your relationships with parents and between parents as they used to be your first role model in life you know.
anyways, there's nothing wrong with you for sure, you just need to find out the best way for expressing your sexuality to make you feel better and not be embarrassed about it Smile
wish you all the best!
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david lyga
 
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Reply Sat 27 Jun, 2020 04:23 am
@Lodewijck,
As a 70 year old gay masseur whose clientele is almost exclusively straight male, I will say that you are experiencing nothing unusual. The attraction part is hard-wired and nothing to be either ashamed of or afraid of. This is natural but decades of societal pressure to posit otherwise is the only damage that I see. - David Lyta
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Teufel
 
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Reply Sat 1 Aug, 2020 05:22 am
@Lodewijck,
Personally I am CIS; I have never once thought about males in any manner apart from the fact most of them irritate me to hell.

It would seem reasonable to say that people who find the same sex appealing in anyway, are at least bi-sexual. For you to have found your father 'weak', things must have happened which you viewed negatively prior to your 'got into a fight' excursion.

Myself I have owned many adult sexual entertainment businesses and in all types of sexualities there are a wide scope of interests. Some gay males like camp, some like sissy and some like 'bear' which is where you are seemingly at.

quote: ...... "Long story short, I think i might have these sexual encounters to feel the masculinity because I don’t know how to express it myself"

What does that mean? Do you mean you are unable to say you are homosexual? Or bi-sexual? Or ... what?

In my life experience one has to be who you are to the exclusion of all other input .... Be yourself and face the world as who you really are, not as you might imagine the world wishes to see you.

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