Medusax, I have no argument with you.
You can obviously make the choices you want to make. You just as obviously must have your reasons.
The guy I was married to over 26 years never expressed an interest in anyone else but me in a romantic, sexual, or deep relationship way.
In other words, there was never any thought on his part to take any second step to an affair, because he never took a first step towards one.
The man wasn't a moron. If a woman expressed annoyance, or from the get go would come across as matter of fact or uninterested in pleasantries or receiving innocent flattery that was both sincere and respectful, he didn't continue. There really wasn't anything to continue. Because he didn't consider how he talked to either men or women as flirting, or talking with one of the guys, or gently teasing/joking with little kids, or whatever else someone could call any one of a million interactions.
If a little kid showed in any way s/he didn't want to be talked to, felt "teased" (in the mildest way, more good natured joking), he didn't do it. If a man didn't want to talk about one of his interests, they found other things to talk about. He wasn't some sex fiend on the make.
It was simply his personality. It was the person I fell in love with, was cherised by and I had no reason to change him in that way from the person that I was first attracted to.
Again, I have no argument with you.
You make your decisions based on whatever crieteria. I do the same.