Is flirting with other women on facebook cheating?

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As far as "insecurities", I don't base how I "feel about myself" on whether some random guy flirts with me. I talk to men every day in one situation or another. "Flirting" never enters into it, and TBH, I would find it highly annoying if it did. It is matter-of-fact talk. If that makes me a bitch, so be it. *shrugs*

Medusax, I have no argument with you.

You can obviously make the choices you want to make. You just as obviously must have your reasons.

Me personally?
The guy I was married to over 26 years never expressed an interest in anyone else but me in a romantic, sexual, or deep relationship way.
In other words, there was never any thought on his part to take any second step to an affair, because he never took a first step towards one.

The man wasn't a moron. If a woman expressed annoyance, or from the get go would come across as matter of fact or uninterested in pleasantries or receiving innocent flattery that was both sincere and respectful, he didn't continue. There really wasn't anything to continue. Because he didn't consider how he talked to either men or women as flirting, or talking with one of the guys, or gently teasing/joking with little kids, or whatever else someone could call any one of a million interactions.
If a little kid showed in any way s/he didn't want to be talked to, felt "teased" (in the mildest way, more good natured joking), he didn't do it. If a man didn't want to talk about one of his interests, they found other things to talk about. He wasn't some sex fiend on the make.
It was simply his personality. It was the person I fell in love with, was cherised by and I had no reason to change him in that way from the person that I was first attracted to.

Again, I have no argument with you.

You make your decisions based on whatever crieteria. I do the same.

If that is flirt with other women that is definitely cheating

I wouldnt be happy about it.
One Ex i had was playing online gaming to the point of where he would be staying up right through the night i could hear him laughing and joking and being flirtatious i questioned him about it and was told i was paranoid.
As time passed i over heard him talking to a girl and saying he loved her so i listened more and he was talking about a future meet, it turns out over like a 12 month period when he was going to work or supposed to be he was meeting up with her who lived in the next city he says it was only a couple of times but i had to get away just felt betrayed.

Every man I was involved with cheated/lied except my husband (but....I wouldn't bet my LIFE on it). My last relationship was the worst. I didn't have my radar up because I figured at his age he was past all that immature crap, but he wasn't. He was pulling the same sort of thing. And then, THIS is what ended it, actually, the incredibly ignorant, stupid, pathetic, weak lies. THAT was the worst part. I now have absolutely NO respect for men in general.

Yes, sure it is. i would not be happy if my husband did so.

Nobody with any self-respect or caring for their SO would. I have heard the "just talking" excuse, the "just friends" excuse, etc. Given my age, most of it happened before online things made it so much easier to do, but it was still done.

And Online! The Horror!

You can mock me all you like. Online flirting leads to real life affairs, and it allows you to reach a broader audience. I lived it. Yes, what myself and several other women went through with my last "mistake" WAS a horror, of hurt feelings, anger and humiliation. Judging by your post, you must be one of those that CONDONES such behavior.

Not you Medusa, I’m mocking this society for not coming to grips with what is wrong with itself. I denied there was anything wrong for many decades and several marriages where I was one hundred percent faithful but was betrayed by all of them. It would be easy to lay it all on them or the true but bullshit line that 'we were both at fault'.
I don’t think we (every ******* one of us) were taught what a healthy relationship is. I think we were taught from day one to build a fence around our relationships because if you don’t, what is 'yours' will stray away or be lured/stollen from you. I wouldn’t want to live in such a world, even if that were true.

Well this is not a good thing because even though they are only flirting on facebook. This could still affect your relationship with your partner.

Yes. It is the first step in the slow progression of actual cheating. "It's only talk online, I'll never meet them". Then, "It's only a nude pic, not like we really HAVE anything". Then "Ok...it's ONLY phone sex while my SO is working, not like it's really going to happen." Then, 'Ok..it's ONE night in a motel, never to see the person again." Then, as in the case of my most recent (and LAST) ex, "Hmm...well if this one can't make it I have a couple of others who will, so I am in for a good time regardless while she works.. hee hee hee." No more time for THAT...

If you look at the replies you have here then we can see that everyone has an opinion ..... and mostly they do not match.

Now I could tell you how my PhD Dr wife and myself have been married blissfully for the past 30 odd years, how we form an egalitarian, symbiotic Gestalt unit ... I could tell you how that all works but it is pointless ... because you are not us.

What I can tell you is this and this is 100% irrefutable fact, not an opinion - The more like one's partner one is, the more likely your partnership will be long, successful and happy.

Yes all sorts get together; but then look at the divorce rates and those who lie in endless angst and misery.

In essence the closer a couple is in terms of origins, socio economic group, belief system (or none), political views, views on family, friends, socialising, importance of work, money, sexual interests and so forth .... the better.

My wife and I are essentially an exact match, the real difference we have is our thinking style; mine is binary and planned, but I am far from risk averse. Whilst my wife is definitely mad professor, she has an 'image streamer' mind, she sees patterns where few others do. Therefore together we are Gestalt.

It is obvious you know the answer to your own question but just do not want to accept/admit it .... Yes of course it is unacceptable and if he is doing it on the internet then he is doing it in real life ... There is an old adage that goes "If they will cheat on someone to be with you, they will definitely cheat on you".

Your boyfriend is all about himself and his needs .... Not much of a catch is he; throw it back and catch a much better fish.

Tell him it's not ok otherwise send him packing if he doesn't listen. That's not a man who considers what he has important. Would be an absolute mistake to marry especially.

There are many women on facebook from Africa, south Africa, and other countries on that continent who scam men. They say sweet , even christian things to draw the men in, and then boom! Would you like to donate to our orphanage in Kenya or Botswana or South Africa? Just saying, watch your passwords, change them often. I too was almost a victim of these African Sirens.