I hope you'll come around to the realization of just how awful your ex was to you.
I gotta say, I'm not really clear on how I should consider this former boyfriend.
I mean, right up front she calls him her "new love", and she says he was with this other person for 12 years.
I don't know where the dividing line is nowadays between calling someone an ex, and saying it was someone you were dating. Personally, I would never call anyone I wasn't married to an ex.
When I need to refer to the man I divorced, I say ex-husband. When referring to a man I lived with for a few years, I say "old boyfriend"
I guess that's neither here nor there for this subject.
I always feel wary when someone says things like "Our relationship was great, we were so happy when we were together."
Basically, I have no time frame for any of this, except that he was definately in a serious relationship or marriage for 12 years. The first thing I noticied on my first read was that the death of her mother was not expected, then a few lines further she says how she discussed this with him "a few days" before her mother died.
Also, I'm confused why anyone would go up to a person who is their new love, boyfriend or just dating, and say that things are going to get crazy, so if you want an out, here it is.
If anything, I would be hoping that person would be a support for me. Why borrow troube, and put something like this out there?
I'm feeling there is quite a bit more to this story, in reality.