Am I Asexual?

You... don't need a label. None of us do.

There's every possibility that your partner just, for lack of a better expression, stank on ice.

There are also plenty of people who only feel comfortable being intimate with someone they love. You may very well be one of those people.

Take some time before you lock yourself into a decision for the next several decades.

Sex is passé. Nobody really likes it in the 2020s, at least not the way they did like it in previous decades.

What poppycock. You may feel that way personally, of course, but don’t speak for others. You lose all credibility.

Lighten up, will you?

If you have a vagina, chances are your first experience will not be that great. It takes quite a few tries for sex to stop being uncomfortable and for your brain to begin getting used to the sensations and later on even finding it enjoyable. Also, depending on your age, if you're in your teens, sex tends to become more enjoyable in your 20's, it's just biology.
Maybe you're like me and you absolutely need to feel a real connection spiritually and intellectually to feel aroused. Don't give up just yet and settle on a conclusion. There might be amazing intimacy and pleasure in your future.

I am old and come from a generation that did not know much about sex. We learned with our partners over time. If you are young and just starting to really explore sex with real interest, your are going to need time to get comfortable. No two people feel or act the same and even guys have problems. Lack of control, not knowing what makes women tick or how to even treat them. It is learned. You may be a slow starter who needs someone to take time to get you to a comfortable point. That in itself can be great because I do like to play a little before really having intercourse. You also should know how to communicate because no two women are the same. What I know for one is not always the same for another. Men and women need different types of stimulation. My wife has sex with her eyes closed. She is intense on felling and emotion that she will just close her eyes once it starts and will only open when we are done. Men on the other hand are more visual and I really get excited at seeing her having an orgasm. You will probably find sex more enjoyable when you have a real relationship with someone who wants to strive to help you reach that pleasure you seek than just one night stands. Nothing in the world wrong with that, it will just make you more satisfied and comfortable with that special someone. Get to know your wants and desires and every way your own body reacts and enjoy your personal time and then when the day comes, you will be able to show that special someone what it is you need and your sex life will be fantastic. I have been married for over 30 years and our sex life is even better now than ever. What has time done for us, she never has an evening that she goes to sleep without first having at least a couple of orgasms. And I cannot tell you how amazed at what the female body is capable of. You women are so blessed!

First of all, you have to understand yourself. And you yourself will figure it out.