In need of relationship advice!

My guess would be that you're meeting next week so he doesn't need to text you as much to bait a meeting.

Wait and meet him - on the positive he wants to meet you so there is interest.

Meeting face to face is so much more meaningful than anything you can text.

There also could be a whole slew of reasons he is not texting as much - he is waiting to meet you, he is really busy at work, school, with friends, etc.

You cannot really determine if you really like each other until you meet in person.

Stop chasing him and see if he's prepared to put in the effort.

@ Bethany777



That is pretty accurate from cherrie, except both of you Bethany and he equally have to put in effort ... Not just him nor you.

The problem with texting and/or posting on these sites etc. etc. is there is no intonation, no body language to pick up on ... Hence people read a text or post with their own 'voice' as it were, not that of the poster.

Another important point which is missed by so many people in life, not just on the internet ..... Why does his perceived reticence by you, have to be about you? The world is not all about you is it? Nor me, nor anyone else.

Maybe he is as busy at work, maybe his dog is ill, maybe he has to go to the clinic, maybe his wife is cutting up rough [Gallic shrug] ... Who knows as there are a billion possible reasons ... But only one is about you, if you see my point.

My advice to my own adult children before they were both in LTR would be "Meet the person, see what happens from there' ... Which is all I can say to you.

Pls note that the timestamp of the OP was over a year ago. However, your advice is still fine.

Hi Bethany, I think that if I was in your place, I would think a little as you and as the others who replied to your post, but the fact is that you don't really know him and need to meet him in person before jumping to conclusions, then you will get a better idea of what's going on. Since you don't really know him, don't take everything he says and do or don't do to the heart. There's the chance that you might not even like him anyway.

You really need to start looking at the post dates.

This is so sad. The ideal way to meet "Mr. Right" or "Miss Right" is through a mutual acquaintance. When you're talking to somebody over the internet, you really don't know what you're getting.

I think it's better to ask him what has changed.
Tell him that you see the difference in your communication, that he used to be more active and talkative, but not now.
Maybe he will dispel your doubts and explain the reason for what is happening. Maybe everything is not as scary as you think.
Or even if he doesn't like you the way he used to, it's better for him to say it now than for you to suffer from doubt for a long time.