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Always being accused of stalking and being creepy

 
 
Reply Wed 25 Sep, 2019 11:07 pm
My other account is dark_angel1720. There it details where my Arby's GM used to like me but eventually went psycho bc I looked up to her and had me canned. BTW, my supervisor at Sam's Club also didn't like that I looked up to her, but at least she only made me quit. Now I'm back at McDonald's and multiple coworkers told me multiple times that I'm crushing on the GM.

"You're a creep."
"If you weren't so in love with him..."
"Are you massively in love with him?"
"What's up with your obsession with him?"
"You have a crush on him."

For what? Because I'm extra nice to him and just a regular amount of nice to everyone else? And he doesn't like it either so he suddenly started ignoring me. He used to like me too. So is it bad to look up to people and/or otherwise be extra nice to them? How come my coworkers can still be nice to me but he can't anymore?
 
neptuneblue
 
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Reply Wed 25 Sep, 2019 11:18 pm
@dirrtydozen22,
Contact your case worker. Your meds need adjusted.
dirrtydozen22
 
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Reply Wed 25 Sep, 2019 11:23 pm
@neptuneblue,
I worked at Sam's Club for 5.5 years. I also returned to McDonald's after all these years and now going on my 3rd year total. Other ppl can look up to someone and get only positive results. But I don't. Could it be the universe?

Also, my first time at McDonald's, I was rude and a bitch to others, so my consequence was justified. At Arby's and my 2nd time at McDonald's, I've been nothing but nice to everyone, especially the GM. I was extra nice to the GM but only "regular" nice to everyone else. Ironically, everyone else still accept me but the GM's are turned off. None of it makes sense.
neptuneblue
 
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Reply Wed 25 Sep, 2019 11:32 pm
@dirrtydozen22,
That's because your meds need adjusted, Tell your case worker you're needing additional help.
dirrtydozen22
 
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Reply Wed 25 Sep, 2019 11:34 pm
@neptuneblue,
Maybe some people should understand that good things should yield positive results, not negative.
neptuneblue
 
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Reply Wed 25 Sep, 2019 11:39 pm
@dirrtydozen22,
Should is the operative word.

Since you don't understand what's happening to you, you need to seek out your case worker, who can explain how your meds help. And that you need to follow the prescribed dosage.
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vikorr
 
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Reply Thu 26 Sep, 2019 02:49 am
@dirrtydozen22,
Random people who don't know you, don't keep saying similar things to you because of some grand conspiracy. The only common denominator - is you.

That is not to say you are bad, but quite likely that your brain isn't functioning in a way that society considers normal...so you end up creeping people out.

That is what it is. If you wish to get along with the vast majority of people, the only way is for you to seek help with your situation - medical or psychological help, not forum help.
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Reply Thu 26 Sep, 2019 04:41 am
@vikorr,
I just don't understand most of it. How does being nice AF to ppl or looking up to them make me creepy? People say those are good things but at the same time are creeped out when I do it.
chai2
 
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Reply Thu 26 Sep, 2019 07:45 am
@dirrtydozen22,
Give some examples of what being "nice as AF" to a person is, as well as being "extra nice" and "regular nice"

For instance, right now multiple people have told you (you can include me in this) that you need to see your therapist and maybe have your meds adjusted.

You just keep repeating the same thing, which is basically "I don't understand"

Nothing anyone here is going to make you understand, so you need to address this with your doctor, therapist, and talk about your meds.

Looking forward to you coming back and telling me you don't understand.
glitterbag
 
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Reply Thu 26 Sep, 2019 08:51 pm
@chai2,
Oh swell, he's/she's back.
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vikorr
 
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Reply Fri 27 Sep, 2019 01:25 am
@dirrtydozen22,
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I just don't understand most of it. How does being nice AF to ppl or looking up to them make me creepy? People say those are good things but at the same time are creeped out when I do it.
This question is what psychologists are for. Precisely why, may require a psychiatrist (the only person qualified to study the chemical / electrical signals of the brain as applied to psychology).

If it were at all possible, a high resolution replay of your days interactions would probably answer a lot of questions - if neither you nor others knew you were being filmed. Unfortunately, that sort of footage is nigh on impossible.

The thing is - you won't get your answers from this forum. You will get generic answers, guestimate answers, but nothing with true specifics, because it's not possible to get into true specifics on a forum (that requires a lot of question & answer, with tone / hesitation / pitch / volume etc informing on the questions to ask)
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Roberta
 
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Reply Fri 27 Sep, 2019 04:57 pm
@dirrtydozen22,
dirrtydozen22 wrote:

I just don't understand most of it. How does being nice AF to ppl or looking up to them make me creepy? People say those are good things but at the same time are creeped out when I do it.


Being nice and looking up to people are good things. The problem is how you act to show these feelings. Your behavior is the issue--not good feelings.
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Olivier5
 
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Reply Fri 4 Oct, 2019 08:14 am
@dirrtydozen22,
As a manager, I positively hate flattery from my supervisees, because I suspect they're doing it for the wrong reasons. Just treat him or her like a normal human being. Maybe it'll help.
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