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How do you know if you made the right decision?

 
 
Reply Thu 12 Sep, 2019 02:42 pm
I broke up with my boyfriend of several years and until the end, he was blaming my adult child because my child dislikes him and he said as a result, I keep our relationship secret but it's destroying our relationship.

I agree that's an issue but what he fails to acknowledge is that my feelings for him and the relationship are directly impacted by his lying. He never ever acknowledges when I catch him in a lie...never.

If I really believed that my kid would accept him and that I would be satisfied with the relationship, that may be possible. But, he just doesn't get that I cannot tolerate his lying, his failure to ever ever take responsibility and apologize and he being selfish and uncaring in certain situations - he verbally attacks me on occasion when he feels threatened - he didn't even apologize for that last night! I find it mind blowing that he knows he verbally attacked me and never apologized and even more mind blowing that he never admits he lied but he is so ready to throw my kid under the bus!

Of course, I feel bad and very sad - I'm fairly certain I did the right thing but there's always that little doubt- how do I handle that?



How do I know I made the right decision? I know we all have our faults? Could he be right that I am looking for excuses to break it off with him so I don't have to deal with my kid???
 
hopelesandheartache
 
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Reply Thu 12 Sep, 2019 04:42 pm
@hopelesandheartache,
Looks like i made the right decision - tonight I discovered a bruise on my arm when he must have grabbed me last night during our argument.
glitterbag
 
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Reply Thu 12 Sep, 2019 06:29 pm
@hopelesandheartache,
Don't take him back, trust me on this.......it never gets better. Your adult child may have a good reason to dislike him, but the fact that the boyfriend complains about your child bothers me even more. Don't let this person isolate you from friends and family. Good Luck
hopelesandheartache
 
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Reply Fri 13 Sep, 2019 09:25 am
@glitterbag,
should I let him know I am bruised from him pushing me and he shouldn't reach out to me or I'll get a peace order?
chai2
 
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Reply Fri 13 Sep, 2019 10:00 am
@hopelesandheartache,
Why the hell would you reach out to him to tell him not to reach out to you?

If he's not contacting you, don't stir the pot. It's pretty obvious you want him to contact you so you can continue to force him to see the error of his ways, apologize, and all kinds of other stuff just so you can drag this drama out.

There's nothing productive that will come from contacting him regarding bruising you, how he talked to you, that he has some sweater of yours in his apartment etc.

Just move on, and if something happens in the future, deal with it appropriately then.

hopelesandheartache
 
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Reply Fri 13 Sep, 2019 10:04 am
@chai2,
He already texted me but I haven't replied.
glitterbag
 
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Reply Fri 13 Sep, 2019 01:00 pm
@hopelesandheartache,
Nope, nope, nope!!!! Don't text him back.
chai2
 
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Reply Fri 13 Sep, 2019 02:14 pm
@glitterbag,
You know she's going to.

And get into this big thing that's going to go on for days.

Then she'll get back together with him, break up, about 5 more times before she runs out of people to tell her drama to.

I'm already over it.
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jespah
 
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Reply Fri 13 Sep, 2019 03:25 pm
@hopelesandheartache,
Ask these gals:
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glitterbag
 
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Reply Fri 13 Sep, 2019 10:10 pm
@jespah,
Love is strange:

http://youtu.be/5SwMB9v1pQ4
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roger
 
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Reply Fri 13 Sep, 2019 11:24 pm
@jespah,
How do you do that?
jespah
 
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Reply Sat 14 Sep, 2019 07:14 am
@roger,
Magic....
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glitterbag
 
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Reply Sun 15 Sep, 2019 11:23 am
@roger,
roger wrote:

How do you do that?


Scary, ain’t it?
izzythepush
 
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Reply Sun 15 Sep, 2019 03:23 pm
@glitterbag,
Not in responsible hands, but I can see why Jes wouldn't let a scamp like Roger in on the act. You'd long on only to find your avatar had been swapped with one from depressedmoldovanfarmanimals.org.

And that's just the beginning.
jespah
 
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Reply Sun 15 Sep, 2019 03:48 pm
@izzythepush,
Time for me to Google depressed Moldovan farm animals. Be back in a bit.
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