Always Flirtation- but nothing further

Wooohhh, Constgirl I can't believe you could stand that. If someone did that to me what the red-hair dentist did to you, I would slap him first and sue him for sexual harrassment later. I think it was really ... uhh...inappropriate.

I think flirting is just that - flirting. I don't know how old you are but I am a university student myself and everyone knows that any "romance" that goes on is just plain fun, especially if both the parties are complete strangers to one another. I'd just treat it as plain fun and not even give him a second thought.

You're old fashioned? So am I! Call me whatever, but I still think its the guy who should ask the girl out and it should be the guy who pops the question.

He put on the blue gloves, like as if he was putting a blue condom, then he goes over and leans his right thi on my right thi. Here he is rubbing his thi against mine, while bending over examining my teeth. Anyhow, he never asked me out, and I didn't either. Was the thi incident an accident or a dirty flirtaious action?

But I'd always be careful that you approach women who seem reasonably sane.

ExtraMedium, I didn't think you were an idiot for not being able to read signals, I thought you were for thinking that you should be able to read signals. ;-)

Actually, just the stuff I said about no holy grail. Maybe yes, maybe no.

I definitely, definitely agree that all of us have problems with signal sending and receiving -- indeed, that was my overriding point.

As for this one, I completely agree with Roger's take. And while it was on another thread, I agree with Setanta's take as well re: CG and taking every opportunity she can to titillate (or however he put it.)

Roger - Exactly. CG is letting her imagination run away with her. She equated rubber gloves to a condom - come on. I don't know how a dentist, eye doctor, gynecologist or anyone else could do their job without some close contact. Pragmatic - it's just irresponsible for you to egg her on in this way. Besides, why would she sue him, even if he had come on to her - she sounded as if she was ready to sleep with him right there in the office. This is exactly the reason that health professionals can no longer afford to be alone in a room while examining a patient. This guy didn't do anything but look at your teeth and smile at you CG- entirely and professionally appropriate. Your wishful thinking invented the rest. And I'll give you a little clue, if you want to be attractive to a guy, at the very least you have to present yourself as sane.

EM - I don't understand your concern. Unless you're coming on to women at work, or coming on to women who have already expressed their disinterest, or coming on to complete strangers who are nervous about being approached by people they don't know, you shouldn't have any worries. When someone flirts with me, I'm either interested or not. If I'm interested, I encourage further contact fairly directly. I agree to join them at their table, or accept a drink, whatever. But if I'm not , then I move to cut the encounter off. I might tell them I'm not interested (I'm direct, and don't play games) but at the very least, I'll move back into my own space instead of into theirs. And all that a guy has to do to stay out of trouble is back off. What's so hard to understand about that? You seem like a smart, sensitive guy who should be able to read people fairly accurately. But I'd always be careful that you approach women who seem reasonably sane. Some women, as we've seen on this thread will read a situation all wrong and react totally out of proportion to what the situation calls for - and then you're in a heap of trouble. It's better to be safe than sorry, and I think I'd rather be lonely than stalked by someone who's not in their right mind.

Hey CG,

What is the deal with you and red headed freckle-faced people? I notice almost all your posts have these characters in them.

And the guys you're checking out are always these freckle-faced dudes. Do you have a thing for freckles?

Maybe you should move to Ireland!

What's up with the freckles, girlie?

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In any event, I'm kind of glad to see your posts on this. I was posting about the same sort of thing here "Making The First Move" etc. and I felt like a lot of the females were talking to me as if I was an idiot or something because I'm not good at reading the signals or non-signals or whatever.

I'm kind of glad to hear that some women have trouble with this too.

Actually, I think its one of the more interesting topics in the realm of Relationships and all that.

I mean, just imagine: All of us might have missed one of our True Soulmates or something, just because we didn't pickup on a smile at the supermarket correctly, or something of that sort. Think of all the times in your life you probably missed out on a great thing.

I'll go out on a limb and say that most ALL of us have probably missed it at one time or another. You liked someone, they were giving you what they thought was a signal or something, you missed it, etc etc.

And the ironic thing is, after missing these things, a lot of people end up like in long relationships or married to someone thats just "pretty good" for them.... All because the silly little communications thing worked better--oh you happened to work with this mediocre match or something so you end up with them instead of the great match at the supermarket you didn't "First Move Communicate" with

...they missed the "excellent match" for themselves because of the hundreds of "First Move" miscommunications they never picked up on.

I think thats interesting. The "First Move" communications/signals between the sexes. I'd like to see a book on that. Probably is one out there.

"First Move Communications for Dummies" by ___________
(Hey perhaps we could work on authoring it together. It could have the male & female perspective)...I've already started some research, but now I'll get more methodical, scientific, do statistical analysis and all that...


extra medium
Posted: Sun Jun 05, 2005 1:34 pm Post subject:

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Thank you ConstitutionalGirl!

See ladies, the above is what the hell I'm talking about.

One woman is probably giving the same damn smile as the other.

One wants to date you and pinch your ass, the other one wants to sue your ass and feels harassed.

There it is.

"Oh, but we don't give signals..."

Damn, maybe I will read up on that hypnosis thing on the other thread...

Tell us what The Word is ConstitutionalGirl!

Pragmatic had me thinking I'm gonna get my ass sued the next time I ask a girl for a date!

Whats The Word, CG?

(I hope you are a female?? Sounds almost trannie? Prove me wrong? )

ConstitutionalGirl wrote:

He put on the blue gloves, like as if he was putting a blue condom, then he goes over and leans his right thi on my right thi. Here he is rubbing his thi against mine, while bending over examining my teeth. Anyhow, he never asked me out, and I didn't either. Was the thi incident an accident or a dirty flirtaious action?

Not having been there, I can't analyze this, but I'm thinking there's only so many ways to put on a pair of tight fitting latex or nitril gloves. The rest is easily explained as professional contact. I get my teeth cleaned every three months, and that's how it goes. My hygenist is doing intricate work, in an awkward position. It's tough on the fingers and very hard on the back.

If the dude is making a move, he should be outta the profession.