How do you know it's love making and not just sex?
If you can't tell
the difference does it even make
It makes a difference if someone is using you vs. actually caring about you as a partner.
Men have trouble understanding the problem of being used for pleasure, because they would get pleasure from being used for pleasure.
Men start to understand the problem of being used, however, when it's for money, self-esteem, or other benefits that satisfy a woman's love for herself at his expense.
If someone is using sex as bait to manipulate, control, enslave, blackmail, or otherwise use/abuse you; that's not love.
Even if they think they love you, but it is a temporary state based on their self-interest of being in a relationship, they are going to eventually dump you; and that is also not love.
Love is truly caring about someone's well-being and not wanting to harm them. So if engaging in sex is ultimately going to harm your partner and/or yourself, then it isn't love if you do it.