Message from ex

My answer wouldn't be "because you asked me a question" but, "because you ******* asked me a question."

Then, I would block.

In reality though, I would probably just block/ignore after this.

Just like I responded here, and that's it.

He tried to strike up a conversation, you answered briefly and shut him down. He tried again, you again answered briefly and shut him down. He's not taking a hint. In his view, an answer is a positive and no answer is a negative, but you found a middle ground, a negative answer. He doesn't know what to do with that. Just don't answer this one. There is no reason to keep this email thread going.

And this is why I wrote this. I honestly never thought of it this way. For me, I saw his apology as just that, an apology and not a means to strike up a conversation because in his apology he never asked me a question. He never asked me how I was doing or if I forgive him. Wow, thank you.

Agreed - I would think "because you ******* asked me a question."

But instead of giving him the satisfaction of an answer because it appears he is trying to get a reaction out of you - I would just block him and not respond to him again.

Funny when you read the thread there is "*****" with the bad word but when you hit quote it actually gives you the bad word.

I think he just wanted to you to still pine over him

Oh yeah, that's why I said that in reality, I would just ignore from that moment on.

Funny story linkat...

I've mentioned before I had a brief, less than 2 years, first marriage.

A few years after I remarried, I got a letter from my first husband. Some crap about some memories he had of us, waxing all sentimental, etc. Then this half assed apology about "his part" in the marrage ending (his part being moving me all around the country, isolating me, spending all his money, and mine, which was a lot more than he had, putting us in debt, trying to get me pregnant when there was no question I didn't want to be, and so much more....yeah, I have no idea what I was thinking marrying this guy)...I just read it to my husband, we both had a good laugh, and it went into the trash.

But wait! there's more....a few more years after that, I was served with papers, something about a foreclosure on the house he kept in the divorce settlement. Even though it was all legally documented that wasn't my property, the bank was trying to come after me because he had apparantly been renting the house out while he lived somewhere else, but hadn't been paying the mortgage. Also, he was now declaring bankruptcy. I eventually got that all straightened out, but I'll never forget this phone call we had over that. I forget how, but somehow I got his contact info. When I called him, I asked him what it was I was supposed to do about the fact he put himself in this situation. His answer, priceless. He said "Well I guess you'll have to go bankrupt too." Like that was just the logical next step.

He was honestly surprised when I said something to the effect of "Are you kidding? Do you realize that I remarried X number of years ago? How are you thinking this has anything to do with me?"

I believe he thought that after I divorced him, my life just came to a standstill, and I was in like embedded in one of those plexiglass cubes.

That's what this guy the OP is talking about sounds like. What is it? 2 years? go by and life hasn't moved on?

Just block the nitwit.

That's a good advice.

Complete narcissism is fugly, isn’t it?

A broken relationship stays broken forever. You are only asking to get hurt again if you try to restart it. Ignore his messages.