I feel the need here to make a stand about common sentiments I hear similar to what Lash said. The ones that that boil down to this belief we've been force fed that for some reason, if you drink alcoholically at some point during your life, you might as well through in the towel and resign yourself to a life of misery and rage.
First, to address this actual thread. The woman that posted (once so far, and has not been back) states the man she's had a relationship with a year or more has increased his drinking in the last 2 months. I can't speak for anyone else here, but I would hate to think that something I started dating 2 months ago would cause someone who cared for me to just disappear from what appeared to be an otherwise good relationship. I would hope that over an 8 week period, even if I protested there wasn't a problem, someone who claimed to care for me would stick around at least a few minutes longer to see what was going on.
Anyway, moving on from that.....
There's a lot of money to be made in alcohol treatment. It is very much worth the while of treatment centers to convince not only the alcoholic, but the family, that there is Always this, for example, raging, destructive, pick out any other number of extreme terms.....person living in this void without humanity, almost (but not quite because hey, this treatment center exists) beyond the reach of any help, solution or possibilty for any sort of normal, let alone happy existence, without 24/7 extreme efforts being made, for the rest of your life.
A total crock.
Yes, yes. I'm not leaving out people who are impossible to reach. Those who end up dying, or permanently incapacitated. Those who can't be reached, reasoned with ever. Very sad, and very damaging to themselves and others. Those are people who also had one or more mental/emotional servere problems. Regardless of whether they drank or not.
I'm not addressing those, and I'm certainly not going to through the guy mentioned in the OP into that catagory. At least not without a lot more information.
The truth is, for many/most people who drink alcoholically, who haven't severely injured their health yet, the reality is not so nearly dramatic or exciting. However, it isn't in the best interests of many treatment centers to not convince them or the families there aren't almost insurmontable issues that only they can help.
Note. I'm not saying there isn't a place for treatment centers. I'm not saying their aren't problems of a heavy nature to be worked on....but it's complete and utter bullshit to proclaim that every such person exists in a raging void.
What more commonly happens, and what has happened for millenium for people who realize there is a problem and stop drinking is just so much more happy.
It's amazing how when a person stops drinking, suddenly everything and everyone around you realizes they have been treating you so badly, and just as suddenly resolve to be better to you.
Over a short period, your job/boss just don't treat you as horribly as before. People in general, and some in particular, do really odd things like smile at you, stop arguing with you, in general get off your back.
In turn, you start to feel less and less anger toward them too. It's just so curious how that works. Do you need some help in working out this anger? Sure... or maybe, or maybe not. To put everyone into this single bucket is irresponsible.
Just so strange how there's suddenly more money in your pocket. How paying your bills on time just stops being such an awful problem, and those bastards who were always calling you demanding your money lay off after awhile. Weird.
In short, when someone realizes they need to, want to, and actually do stop drinking, regardless of how.....many things, some of which you hadn't even known were problems until they were gone....just kinda fall into place after awhile.
Maybe this "rage" came from so many things constantly bombarding you all the time....because of your drinking. Maybe you realize you're not a completely rage filled person who is doomed to live this way forever, and never enjoy anything like normalcy, but instead, like many people are coming out of a rough time, and are glad of it.
Naw.....couldn't be that. That's just crazy talk.