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Thu 25 Apr, 2019 07:52 am
so I started a new job a few months ago and I noticed one of the people there flirted with me quite a lot. few weeks go by and we are now chatting and just harmless flirting. couple weeks after that and we are talking almost every day with heavy flirting talking about sex etc.
we go out in their car to chat about our feelings and they try it on with me. we kiss and they ask if I want to go back to theirs. I say no and that's about it. we chat about how we are feeling and agree to take it slow, have more of a fwb situation and build on the emotions during (sounds stupid now I'm typing it out). a couple of days ago we do the devil's tango.
however today they have told me they may be taking on the role of one of the team leaders on my department... I've said to this person in the past that having a relationship with someone you work with isn't a good idea anyway but now it's been confirmed they are taking on this role so we have agreed to no longer flirt, or to just continue whatever we have full stop.
it wasn't at a serious enough stage to be really be heartbroken over it but I'm still trying to process it? I've only been single since November (from a 5+ year relationship) so I'm still trying to be happy with myself rather than with being happy with another person. not sure if life is trying to test me right now by allowing me to catch feelings for someone then whip out the stop sign.
I'm only 19 so I understand I have the rest of my life ahead of me and I probably shouldn't even be worrying about this but this is only the second person in my life that I've been interested in and perused something with.
I basically need advice on what to do moving forward. i've said I'd like to remain friends as we have confined in each other about our mental health and all that jazz so it would be a bit weird to act as if nothing happened.
@dramaticbewbs,
this person is only a year older than me fyi
@dramaticbewbs,
Don't date your boss. Full stop.
There is nothing more to say.
@jespah,
and even worse if it is just a FWB...gives even more an appearance of using sex for getting ahead (good pun as well).
@dramaticbewbs,
Given the circumstances, you should at the very least stop anything physical/romantic If you're really interested in this person and feel like it might be something worth pursuing then I would suggest developing a friendship with this person and getting to know them on a personal level first. By doing this you can still develop parts of your relationship that could transfer to a romantic relationship while steering clear of things that may complicate your career there. That being said, you're still young so you have plenty of time to build new relationships and focus more on your career there.
Dude, that's awesome! Think about all the fooling around you can do in the office! Free office supplies too. Then, if they fire you you can say you were sexually harassed by your boss!
@dramaticbewbs,
First of all your 19 years old. You do not have enough life experience to know what you're doing. STOP!!!!!!! Never, never, never date your boss.
@dramaticbewbs,
Think first and then take a decision.
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