I am sure GLAD you got out of there! Thank goodness!
Oh Montana, I think we actually may agree but I can't put my finger
on it exactly or say the right words... Late and tired but let's see.
I didn't mean to be inferring anything about your parents.
My point ...struggling...
Quote:All we can do is try to ask them directly, and listen to all of it - how they are, and why.
If more people asked you "How are you?" would it have
helped release your rage a bit, to be seen more, and
understood and not as alone with it?
If more people asked the school "How are you?" could we as
a community better understand how squeezed, violent and barely
surviving the school is, or how the he!l such situations can persist?
If more people asked your parents "How are you?" could we
learn more about what parents face and the resources and
support and strategies they need?
If more people asked the bully "How are you?" would it have
helped release THEIR rage, to be seen more, and understood
and not as alone with it?
Every person there - even the principal and the teachers and
the legal authorities - may have been in prison, bound
and constricted, in how they were treated, what they cope with
or how they could come to grips and face things.
But if folks were in a greater habit of asking questions,
and HEARD how terrible and deep the situation was
for each party involved ...
if each party was really understood and acknowledged,
then maybe each one wouldn't have to
- face it in isolation,
- or check out and disconnect from what's happening,
- or flail around in destructive ways.
The solution may have come sooner and smoother
without as much bruising of everyone involved.
Probably rambling, but that's all I'm trying to say (I think!
... I'm not at all sure how my posts are received on A2K)
I thank God you survived.
PS - Personally, I thought my high school diploma was worse than a
death certificate. Nobody can ever understand how horrible
it was for me, unless they hear it from me. Not one person has
been through what I have, in any story that I've ever heard.
It's not at all surprising that three of my classmates died, yet people
go on like it was nothing. If you made it out intact, serious Congratulations.