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Should there be a pause for reflection between relationships? How Long?

 
 
Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2019 05:36 am
Hello everybody... here's a question...

I've been through a short-term relationship with a girl, things didn't work out, we both came to the conclusion that we were just not connecting. Didn't have much in common. So we both agreed to end the relationship.

So, I met another girl recently and would like to start dating, but the question is... how soon is it too soon? should I stand-by for a while and collect my thoughts? should there be some time for closure, even though it all ended well and with no hard feelings?

Thank you.
 
hightor
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2019 05:47 am
@TyrionGuy,
There's no "one size fits all" rule for this sort of thing. I think that because you are even asking this question you're more likely to fare better in a "rebound relationship" than someone who never gives it a thought.
TyrionGuy
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2019 06:27 am
@hightor,
thank you for your response @hightor

Of course there's no magic formula, however, I wonder if I should have some "alone time" to reassess, instead of jumping straight into another relationship...

i'll give it some time to check how I feel about the new girl... if it's genuine feelings or me just not wanting to be alone
jespah
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2019 09:12 am
@TyrionGuy,
Maybe not the same day.

Otherwise, as hightor says, it's not one size fits all.
TyrionGuy
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2019 10:33 am
@jespah,
obviously not the same day... same month though...
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maxdancona
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2019 10:39 am
@TyrionGuy,
One you end one realtionship you are free to persue another realtionship.

If this new realtionship is good, there is no reason not to go forward. What are you going to do... tell this new person to wait?

It doesn't sound like you are grieving... I see no reason to not try a new relationship.
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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2019 05:55 pm
Don’t think you have to have a relationship with every girl you date.

Take some time and think about what attributes you are attracted to. But in the meantime, cultivate a lot of female friends.
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ehBeth
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2019 06:00 pm
@TyrionGuy,
TyrionGuy wrote:

Of course there's no magic formula, however, I wonder if I should have some "alone time" to reassess, instead of jumping straight into another relationship...

i'll give it some time to check how I feel about the new girl... if it's genuine feelings or me just not wanting to be alone


hi TyrionGuy

you're considering asking someone new on a date

you won't know til you've been on a few dates whether there is a possibility for a relationship

go on a date. go on dates with several people

let the possibility of a relationship be a question for another day Smile

try and relax about it - have some fun
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maxdancona
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2019 06:43 pm
@TyrionGuy,
It is funny how people who have never dated women give dramatically different advice than people who have.

Never look for a friendship with someone with whom you might want to have a sexual realtionship. Every single man who has dated around for a while knows this. (It is not that a sexual relationship can't develop from a friendship, but it sure makes things more difficult).
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Medusax
 
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Reply Tue 12 Feb, 2019 06:17 pm
@TyrionGuy,
Only YOU can answer this question for yourself.
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lucas10
 
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Reply Sun 17 Feb, 2019 08:30 am
@TyrionGuy,
First of all, time alone is ******* awesome. Why not have a little of that?
Secondly, of course there is no role of thumb here, but - most people need some time to define themselves without the significant other they've just lost, to process, to think what went wrong and understand how not to repeat it.
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