Well I wouldn't say "great". I may have spoken prematurely. He doesn't speak English very well but I've had fun showing him how things are done here. When he first immigrated here he didn't know anything about western countries, and he didn't even know how to use a toilet, but I've helped him a bit and it's been fun showing him the ropes and being his girlfriend.
I know you're right about figuring out relationships. I just am unsure if there's something I need to do because I'm positive it's a cultural thing.
When he asked me to be his girlfriend he sad he loved me and wanted to have kids with me which is odd but given he's not from here I thought he was sweet, and if we did ever get that serious I'd definitely like kids with him.
I have asked him about why he's so rough with me, and from what I was able to understand from his level of English he said it was "the way men do things with their girls"
I can tell he gets agitated when I don't do the right things in bed. It's like I can't do anything right and every time I try something he gets frustrated and forces me to stop and do something else. Recently When we were in bed he pulled down the hijab and kissed me, but when I removed it to kiss him he slapped me and shouted "you don't that!". Or the other day he got on his back and told me to sit on his croch while facing him with my feet on either end of the bed and I tried that but he kept getting angry that I wasn't in the right posture and he was very specific about me making a kind of wide "M" shape with my legs as I sat on him, and this was a hard position to pull off without using my hands to balance but he said to keep my hands at my sides and was adamant that I made that M shape with my legs as I sat on him and he wouldn't have it any other way.
I mean, I don't mind doing all that for him, I want to do it so he is satisfied but I feel there are things I need to know in order to perform right.
I've tried to ask him what exactly I need to do, BUT because of the language barrier he just doesn't understand me.
I know you might say this is a sticky situation but I really like him and I always keep in mind he's from another culture and background, and he has no idea about a lot of norms and values we have here. It's just the way he was raised.
I personally don't mind him doing all this to me in bed but I want to do things right so he's not always correcting me all the time.
I just wonder if there is some Muslim rules for women during sex? Or if there are any guidelines or common practices women from his culture are supposed to do?
Because I want to know how to make him comfortable and do things from his culture so he feels at home while I work on our communication and relationship so we can both understand each other better in the future.