Dating a divorcee

The only person displaying addictive behaviour of this thread is you. Your prurience is getting out of hand, it's probably the main reason you're so pissed off with everyone.

Who says I'm 'pissed off?'

Sex is just pleasure. Get over it. There are more important things in life.

You're the one obsessed with sex, you brought it up and kept banging on about it. Then you accuse others of your own obsession. It's not healthy.

So you’re the sex police?

There is a huge difference between dating a single parent and being a step-parent. I have done both.

Dating someone with children doesn't make you any kind of parent. Your relationship is with the adult. That doesn't give you any responsibility for the children.

To my girlfriend's children, I am mommy's boyfriend. I am nothing more. I am nice to them, I like to play with them, but I have zero parental role. Everyone understands this and everyone is happy with this. My daughter understands that my girlfriend isn't her mother and never will be. My daughter treats my girlfriend as a friendly adult that is with her dad. That works well.

I am a step-father too. When I got married my now ex-wife had two sons. Their idiot father was out of the picture. I very intentionally took the role of father. I raised them. I counselled them. I gave them what they needed. I disciplined them. My wedding vows included vows to love and care for my stepsons. I love them (and now that they are adults I still love them).

Being a step parent means taking all of the responsibility to love children as your own. This is a big decision and a life-long commitment. Even after I divorced their mother, I consider to love and care for my stepsons.

You don't take that responsibility just because your boyfriend or girlfriend has kids.

That's the most anal thing I've ever read, seriously.

You're obsessed. Stop obsessing about what goes on in other people's bedrooms, try something else like gardening. You can still disapprove of bees and other pollinating insects and give everyone else a break.

I think 99% of the posts on here, if not more fail to worship sex. Believe me, failing to worship sex isn't an issue, not for most people anyway.

You're the one doing the harassing by turning the conversation around to sex all the time, and by trying to ram your twisted beliefs down others' throats.

You sound deranged.

All the communication in the world isn't going to get him out of his work hours. Hospitality usually means both Friday and Saturday nights and holidays. It's a rough schedule. And it's ok if that's your chosen profession.

But dating someone like that also means a lot of alone time, something that I think OP shouldn't have to endure at this time in her life. She should dating someone who has more time for her, recognizes that a relationship cannot grow in a vacuum or when it's only convenient for him.

I don't think OP should be waiting around for him to be able to find time for her. She deserves more than that.

I agree with you and the mere thought that she's seeking advice means that she has subconsciously doubts too.

They do live in the same city now, but he has not offered to move in together. This would make things much easier for OP and her partner, yet it hasn't happened. After being together for a lengthy period she has not met his daughter and she's not included in his inner circle so to speak.

She's the girlfriend he sees when he's got a free minute. At 26, she deserves more attention and more involvement and commitment from him. Neither has happened.