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He forgot my birthday.

 
 
CalamityJane
 
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Reply Thu 6 Dec, 2018 11:00 pm
@chai2,
You go from one extreme to the next and if you don't care about the birthdays of your loved ones, frankly I don't understand this attitude.
If it really would be like you said, then why would people put their birthdays on facebook? They want to be congratulated and most people write a note to them, it's a nice form of etiquette and why not. It tells the person that they're remembered and they're important.
Aside from you and ehbeth here, I have not met anyone who didn't like a "happy birthday" on their special day. It shows that one cares.
CalamityJane
 
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Reply Thu 6 Dec, 2018 11:01 pm
@ehBeth,
So tell me ehBeth, why do you have your birthday put on your facebook then?
If you don't care why put it in at all?
ehBeth
 
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Reply Thu 6 Dec, 2018 11:04 pm
@CalamityJane,
It used to be required - and I never deleted it. No biggie.
izzythepush
 
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Reply Fri 7 Dec, 2018 07:14 am
@CalamityJane,
CalamityJane wrote:

we all have cell phones and other tools we can choose as a reminder, why not do so?

Tell him your birthday and ask him to add it in his cell phone calendar. This way he'll be reminded.


That's a huge assumption. My mobile phone cost 3 quid. I can send texts and make calls, but that's about it. And that's all I want btw.
Setanta
 
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Reply Fri 7 Dec, 2018 07:25 am
The Girl has a hard time remembering my birthday--it's no big deal. It's not like I'm an anxious adolescent, I can handle it.
izzythepush
 
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Reply Fri 7 Dec, 2018 07:39 am
@Lorna0492,
If your birthday came and went without mention you could justifiably say he'd forgotten your birthday. That's not what happened, he knew it was your birthday and asked you the exact date beforehand with plenty of time so that he would not forget it. Some people aren't very good with dates.

If you carry on like this he'll soon realise you're too much hard work and find someone else, someone without so many issues.
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chai2
 
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Reply Fri 7 Dec, 2018 09:52 am
@ehBeth,
ehBeth wrote:

It used to be required - and I never deleted it. No biggie.


Same here. I’m barely a presence on Facebook, and I wasn’t even aware my birthday was somehow in there until on that day I got some birthday greetings. At some point I was looking at I guess my settings and thought I took that out. I guess not because this year I still got one. It barely registered with me.

What I know about Facebook could fit in a thimble, and I’m not involved in any other social media. I actually joined FB just to see what was supposed to be the big deal, and quickly saw that it wasn’t.


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ehBeth
 
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Reply Fri 7 Dec, 2018 09:52 am
@izzythepush,
izzythepush wrote:

CalamityJane wrote:

we all have cell phones and other tools we can choose as a reminder, why not do so?

Tell him your birthday and ask him to add it in his cell phone calendar. This way he'll be reminded.


That's a huge assumption. My mobile phone cost 3 quid. I can send texts and make calls, but that's about it. And that's all I want btw.


true enough - I don't think my phone has a calendar on it (it might - I've never looked for one)
izzythepush
 
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Reply Fri 7 Dec, 2018 09:56 am
@ehBeth,
I have a computer and an actual calendar for other stuff. My youngest is autistic, and unlike me, or the kid, he's really into dates, loves writing stuff on the calendar and reminding us of appointments birthdays etc.
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izzythepush
 
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Reply Fri 7 Dec, 2018 09:58 am
@Setanta,
Strangely enough I will never have problems remembering your birthday because it's the day before my youngest's. It came up on new posts the day before his.
chai2
 
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Reply Fri 7 Dec, 2018 10:13 am
@CalamityJane,
If by liking that you wished them a happy birthday do you mean they basically said “thanks”?

Well, that’s also just the polite response and etiquette. It’s what I do on the odd occasion someone says HB to me. It’s an automatic response, nothing more.

Just like if someone was to say to me “today’s my BD” of course i’d Say HB because it’s just polite.

However, if someone says that next week is my BD, my response would be “Oh”, or “Really?” Because it’s acknowledging what they said. If an adult tells me that, or volunteers it’s on a specific day, I’m thinking it’s usually in relation to something else going on, not like they’re fishing for future birthday greetings.

Having to type out the why’s and when a birthday is acknowledged is taking ever so much more time than that thought process behind it.

I show my true loved ones in ever so much more huge and deep ways of my devotion to them.

It’s definitely not through some trite public display.


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chai2
 
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Reply Fri 7 Dec, 2018 01:27 pm
Of course specific birth dates have only been observed since the advent of calendars that provided times with that accuracy.

Even then....one of my grandmothers didn’t know her birthday, just that it was somewhere between Christmas and Easter I think. More or less her mother had told her “it was cold”.

She seemed to be just as “borned” as the next person. It wasn’t until she had children of her own that were adults did they decide for her that she “needed” a specific date.

I guess maybe at once point someone had to come up with a date so she could collect her social security.

It just seems such as arbitrary thing to track. Why not every 5 years?
ehBeth
 
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Reply Fri 7 Dec, 2018 02:08 pm
@chai2,
My best local friend has two birthdays. Her actual date of birth, and her legally recorded date which became her birthday in Canada. I go to her house and cook for her on a day near both of them. She likes celebrating - there will be three Christmas events at her place - as well as a couple of New Years' dos. For her it is good to have two birthdays.
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ehBeth
 
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Reply Fri 7 Dec, 2018 02:28 pm
@izzythepush,
Belated happy birthday to your youngest.
Roberta
 
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Reply Fri 7 Dec, 2018 04:03 pm
@chai2,
chai2 wrote:


Odds are if you didnt' send them any kind of message, would they even notice? Who keeps track of that sort of thing?




You can bet your sweet petootie I do.
ehBeth
 
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Reply Fri 7 Dec, 2018 05:22 pm
@Roberta,
really?
really?
chai2
 
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Reply Fri 7 Dec, 2018 05:25 pm
@Roberta,
LOL.

Another good reason not to get in the habit.

If you've never sent them in the first place, can't get on the bad list.


Seriously though, I've no bone to pick with people sending birthday greetings.

I just realize it's ultimately more important to the person sending them, then those receiving them, especially if it's done in a public arena.

Me? Those I care about, and care about me, know I'd go to the wall for them. If that's not enough, then nothing will be.

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Roberta
 
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Reply Sat 8 Dec, 2018 03:30 am
@ehBeth,
ehBeth wrote:

really? Yes.
really? Yes.


From Chai2:

I just realize it's ultimately more important to the person sending them, then those receiving them, especially if it's done in a public arena.

As the person receiving them, they're very important to me. And I don't care whether they're given in public or in private. I like being remembered.
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izzythepush
 
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Reply Sat 8 Dec, 2018 04:34 am
@ehBeth,
Thanks, I'll pass it on.
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najmelliw
 
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Reply Sat 8 Dec, 2018 08:14 am
@Lorna0492,
Tell him the date, see if he does something extra special because of remorse. Either way though, I don't really think it's worth a major argument over. As mentioned, some people have a much poorer memory for dates.
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