If your sexual preference is being dominated than what you need is a Dom. Google D/S (Dominant/Submissive) sexual preferences. That will explain this far better than I can. Good sex is about finding the right partner who likes what you like or accommodate. If you’re out of your comfort zone, all bets are off as far as having a good time.
Be advised that sexual relations is not a competition. It’s about sharing and giving. If you don’t communicate your needs and vice versa, how can you expected to satisfy each other mutually?