Is it possible to be attracted to someone but not find her attractive at all?

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Hello folks. I would like you to give me some advice if you can, as to why am I feeling so confused.
A week or two ago I met a girl. She's all lovely with great personality and I think, I might actually be attracted to her. I don't think that I may have a particularly strong feeling towards her, but I have this urge to try and reach her with a text or even try to invite her somewhere, but the thing is, that I don't find her physically attractive at all. She is a normal looking girl, but totally not my type. There's not even a particular feature that I might like about her, but still I really do want to get closer to her.
I am really confused about this whole situation

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@winushka,

Chemistry and personality is what you're reacting to.

Looks are only one factor in attraction.

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@winushka,

Yes, that is so strange an unacceptable that one would find a person attractive that has the bad graces on not fitting into some mould that you and/or society deems acceptable.

You need to immediately distance yourself from this person, and find someone that you can pigeon hole into your limited understanding of human relationships.

Seriously, do this woman a favor and don't force her to find out on her own in the future what a shallow idgit you are.

Has it occured to you she might not be attracted to you in any way? If she's lovely with a great personality she deserves much better.

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@winushka,

Congratulations! You have now discovered the concept of attraction based on actual merit, aside from looks.

Trouble is, you don't buy into it.

If you can't get over this girl not meeting your "looks" threshold, then don't pursue a relationship.

In your spare time (alone) rent the movie, "Shallow Hal"

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@winushka,

No, by definition, it's not.

If you find her attractive, then she is attractive.

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I think you meant to say ‘can you be attracted to someone who doesn’t fit your criteria for physically attractive?’ ...and, I think you’v already answered that question.

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@winushka,

Well, I think you should remove yourself from this girl.....if you think you're attracted to her but she doesn't quite measure up....you will make her miserable...assuming she can overlook anything she finds less than suitable about you. You should concentrate on being Mr. Perfect so you can attract a girl you think you deserve. You should also work on being the man that girls deserve.

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