Mon 29 Oct, 2018 12:59 pm
I don't even know how to begin this. At my age, I figured I'd seen everything, but haven't encountered this crap before. I have a work colleague/friend who has suddenly started behaving erratically. I assume it's work, but he won't talk about anything. Everything is "fine", so I didn't press it. Just chit chat as usual. Twice now, I'd been talking with him, and things seem normal, but all of a sudden, he freaks out about something that was said, and lashes out. I had a door slammed shut in my face a couple weeks ago because he got super defensive, claimed I (and everyone else) want him to fail. I stupidly said that that's BS, and cared about his feelings. I don't even remember what started the whole thing. So naturally, slamming a door in my face is the appropriate response. He doesn't do this with anyone else.
I've given it a couple weeks, barely interacting except for a hello or the blike if we see each other. Basically cut him off from non-work related things. Went on a hike with a work group Saturday, and we ended up being in the same vehicle, alone. Thought maybe it would be normal, or a good way to reconnect, something. Nope. He was teasing me/making jokes at my expense most of the way, and harping on some ex-coworker who is a "pervert"... among other sexual topics (this is relatively new coming from him, as well). Don't mind a little playful back and forth, but this wasn't that. I barely said anything because if I did? More jokes/comments.
At this point, I'm done. I know it isn't me, but it IS me he's chosen to behave like this toward. If I could ask him, I would. I feel bad because this has come out of nowhere, and I thought we were friends. I looked up to him and trusted him; he's also older, so I think that plays into my shock at the behavior. Have any of you dealt with something similar? Wtf?
Perhaps he's bipolar.
But whether he is or he isn't, involve HR. You don't have to take it.