Thank you, I appreciate your answer.
The only issue is that weather or not I make my son's dad responsible for picking him up, doesn't mean he will. Even if we had a court order, I would still be doing all of the transporting because he does not, or chooses not to own a vehicle. It would never be a fair arrangement, no matter how hard I try to reason with him.
I know not to mess with CPS. That was a nightmare, but the case was dropped quickly, as they could see I obviously do not abuse my son.
My son will never be a pawn, that was never my point or goal in any way. But the fact that I have bent over backwards for years and received no help at all means that now, I'm putting the responsibility of ALL transportation to his father, and am in no way limiting or keeping my son from him. He only limits himself by not being a responsible adult, and I choose to let that problem pass to him, and not to me.
I do have my son's best interest in mind at all times, and if his father wants to be in his life as a good example, he can figure out how to do everything without me, and be that good example as a responsible adult who will help with 50% of everything.
You are right about my son needing both parents though, and this whole things saddens me. I do agree that a court order might be necessary, I just don't know beneficial it would be in reality.