Lots of questions for me here.
Were you ever in a relationship with this guy where you were in the same city?
How long have you been in this relationship?
How often do you see each other in person?
Have you discussed sexual fidelity and what it means to both of you?
What do you do together sexually in your ldr? do you take advantage of skype and the like?
I've been in a few long-distance relationships over the decades. Sexual fidelity is not something that matters greatly to me - as long as the partners are honest about where they stand on things. I've been in relationships where that worked out well and some where the other person didn't share my views on how ldrs could work.
You guys have to talk it out and figure out where you both stand on things.
your bf gets bonus points from me for being honest with you about the plus plus massage