Personality or Looks?

Personality always in my opinion

personality? um guess I should get one of those.

Definitely personality. Good looks can only take you so far but after that you had better have something to fall back on. Like a great personality.

Personality changes only slightly as you age
looks dissappear.

Without a better definition of "partner", I'd have to say looks. While I would require both for any meaningful relationship; I can imagine partnering up with Penelope Cruz regardless of what her personality may be. However much I'd like to say the same of some spectacular personality with Rosanne Barr's looks, alas, that dog won't hunt.

I think looks can get you in the door, but personality is what determines if someone will become a partner or a fling.

Personality can cover alot more territory than looks.

While i think many people would automatically say personality, based on the fact that they don't want to feel shallow i think the same people would have to admit to being attracted first of all to the person's appearance. While personality is the key factor in choosing a life mate, i presume most people would need something to make them start talking

That said i happen to be in the lucky position that when i'm getting on really well with somebody, i automatically seem to start fancying them. It's happened with the last 3 relationships, and the two do-they-don't-they nearly relationships in the middle... guys who i was good friends with but never looked at in that way suddenly became irresistable when we developed a certain spark of rapport.... odd - but very good from my perspective!!

I'm so shallow - I'll take looks
Personality I have of my own....

I would say looks attract you to someone.
Personality keeps the relationship longer than just a fling.

Had a friend in school who fell pretty hard for a very unattractive girl when he asked my opinion of her " she has a good personality"
All my other friends caught on right away took him about 2 months to figure it out

Guess I m shallow

I was gong to admit that looks are more important(especially in the begining) before reading the posts in the thread. Eventually personality is more important in the long run. Bad personalities make pretty girls look ugly to me and good ones make OK looking girls beautiful in my eyes.

What I really need is chemistry. Before settling down my rules were: he can't scare the dogs and he must up hold his end of a conversation - after that the chemistry must kick in so I melt when he touches me and makes me long to be kissed.

They say today you know immediately if you are going to sleep together.I think we all have some object of desire in us thanks to the movies.Maybe it just means we wish our actions were taken more importantly or observed in a strange and wonderfull way.But that gets us into politically hot waters so I say PERSONALIY....like in the song.

I agree with Tenoch! If an average looking person has a great personality, then he/she becomes more attractive! From my personal experience, the more time you spend with a person, the more attractive they become - and then you get married/move in and all that disappears! However I think a good combination of looks and personality is what we look for, sometimes we have to comprimise one for the other!

I love a healthy and good personality! However, I have seen people in public where they look good together...what are the chances that both good-looking people have good personalities?!?! I think plenty of people go by looks above everything else. Of course, it's just my opinion, not fact.

personality goes a long way... looks are cool don;t get me wrong i'm not out there for charity but I like charmers and wit (money too he he he)

I agree rasp!
it is the looks that make us pay attention.
If we were not attractive to each other ( people in general that is ) , then we would never speak. Without speaking, you know nothing of a personality.
That doesnt happen ALL the time. For the most part though, that is the scenerio..

I'll take a smart, witty, good-natured guy every time. Looks fade.

That said, I often wonder if looks are more important to men than to women. I so rarely see a not-so-great-looking woman with a very handsome man. I see t'other way around all the time.