Dating for 2 1/2 years.
You get on smoothly with ex-wife.
The first one.
If you said you were in a committed relationship and was just having difficulties with her trust issues, as you are tight with your ex, ok. I get it.
But, you've said "dating" which suggests to me that you are not committed, you still respect and have enough feelings for your ex wife, just not enough to go back to her, so this is someone that you simply "date" who isn't even in your own neighbourhood.
You then say "she is a total freak". But ask if you should break up with her
So to me, you aren't serious about her in any event, and never trusted her anyway.
" I asked back then if anyone hit her up".
She was honest to a degree. In reality, again, to me she was saying, that she doesn't feel like she's in a committed relationship with you, things are missing, including "lust". And I would say love.
Get over your ex, or go back to her.
If you remain single, then when you next enter a relationship, give it your all, not half azzzzed and you won't go through this again.