My gf gets upset if I orgasm next to her instead of in her?

Maybe she doesn't like the mess.

This is another example of a case where if the genders were reversed, this would be seen as sexual assault. You can say no to a sexual act at any point. Your partner should respect that.

The whole "point" of sex is to be agreeable to both partners equally. If you can't agree about this, maybe three months was enough time to find out you weren't meant to be together?

Some people think doing something different is sexy.
I also know that if someone is not very experienced or sophisticated, they have huge expectations about how things should be—sex is just one of those things—and variations make them very uncomfortable.

This sounds like your current bedmate.

I wouldnt have made this post but its starting to make me feel bad. I told her sometimes i just orgasm inside her because I want to make her happy but then she says if your just doing it to make me happy an not wanting to then she doesnt like that an we might not work ..so now I dont know what to do.

Yeah I'm starting to think we might not work as well as I thought cause she's very agressive for a female an shes also very sensitive...but I am just not a quitter an we are in a long distance relationship so I'm trying to be positive.

No wonder you're coming outside.

I think the concept of being a "quitter" is misplaced here. A quitter is someone who gives up something important or necessary out of laziness or cowardice etc. Are you a quitter if you stop eating something you don't like, stop watching a movie that turns out to be dull, or annoying, or just crappy, or stop reading a book that is badly written or boring? No you are not. You have a choice here. You have posted about a fairly new relationship where, in its most intimate zone, the bed, where all should be natural and happy, you are being told by the other person that something you find natural and harmless is "wrong". In other words, the other person is making rules that you have to follow, or, presumably, do the other thing (i.e. terminate the relationship). You feel strongly enough about this to post a question on a web forum. If you decide this relationship is not for you, you would not be a "quitter".

Coitus interuptus?

Unless the man and woman are trying to avoid pregnancy, is it normal for a man to want to pull out?

Is there a particular reason you don't desire having orgasms inside your woman?

To each his own. Everyone has there own preferences.

I have been wondering about this. In fact I have been re-thinking what I wrote above, in which I seem to be mainly seeing the guy's point of view. Many people want sex with their partner to be a time of shared intimacy and togetherness, and it may be that the lady in this situation is upset when the OP suddenly "whips it out" and, in her perception suddenly "breaks the spell". The train, so to speak, is approaching the terminus (or the peak of a climb?) when suddenly and unilaterally the locomotive jumps the track and her emotions lie wrecked beside it. What was inside her, cosy and enclosed, has suddenly (perhaps?) become an exterior and aggressive attacker, squirting out jizzum (Where? On her (aggressive)? On the sheets (who has to lie in it?)? The inside vs. outside aspect is indicative. I wonder if maybe talking about this could be useful? I also wonder if the OP is copying an act he has seen in porn videos?

I think shes just extremely sensitive an we don't have much time together when we are so she wants it to be as intimate as it can be. Also i pull out at times because while I was having a orgasm she started moving all over which I wasn't used to an I'm sensitive down there so if there is any movement during the explosion for me its extremely sensitive an almost painful...which she finds weird

Centrox, obviously the girl is extremely sensitive and aggressive.

She moves during sex.

I was in the bathroom at a local bar/restaurant and two girls came in. I recognized one girl's voice because it it so distinct. She was saying, ". . . yeah, Ralph was a nice guy, but he was a lazy f@ck."

I came out of the stall and she looked at me horrified, since I know her ex. I acted like I never heard her remark.

Every time I see Ralph, I think of that remark, since he's a lazy employee, too.

yeah. I was wondering. This can happen to guys.

Why do you want to cum next to her instead of inside her? Is that normal for a guy? I can just imagine, the moment before blast off, a guy pulling out of me and flopping around like a a dying fish as he cums beside me. Sexy! As a female, I can say guys getting extra hard the second before ejaculating and then filling me up is feels pretty good. Why deny her that to cum onto your own pelvis or bed sheets?

That's been answered.



People are all different, some of us understand that.

I don't much care for it, messy, and is a hassle to get out of my hair and stuff. Getting painted looks cool on vids, irl, not so much. Plus, its a waste. High in protein. Why you being so selfish?, lol. If you do it carefully, dump on her face, then smear it around, tell her you are giving her a facial mask, helps the complexion and gets rid of wrinkles.