We broke up, is there any hope?

We were in a ldr for 5 months now. He said he doeant want to be in a relationship he said he wants to take care of only him. He said he is tired of the routine in our relationship and that he needs time to himself

One can always hope. Personally, I wouldn't bother. If he isn't interested right now, I would expect him to go through other periods of needing space, needing time to himself, and whatever else he can think of. "He wants to take care of only him." Fine, and you take care of yourself - till you find someone worth your time.

It's difficult for a young man of 19 to maintain an LDR.

Given every single one of your other topics about this disaster of an ldr on this site, I'd think you'd be relieved.

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let it go

time for you to find someone to have a positive relationship with

re-read what you've been posting here since last summer

time to move on. if one doesnot care so why should you?

You are right. I logged into his fb account kind of by accidemt, didnt think it would work.. but i saw what he was talking about me. I thought he was the sweetest guy in the world who loved me very much, but what i saw on his fb shocked me. It wasnt even the same person. He was hitting and all girls even thought he said he doesnt want a relationship! He was talking really badly about me.. things i didnt think he would ever say about me.. his friends were saying that i act like im the victic.. but he dumped me, not the other way around. He refuses to talk about the break up and explain a few things to me and just talks woth gis friemds what a stupid bitch i am... it burts like hell knowing that he would say and act the way he is rigjt know... how could he say those things about me.. and the lie to my face and say that he would never say a bad word about me. I know realize that he is not for me. I have wasted too many tears on him.

Give yourself permission to feel lousy, okay? I know it hurts and in particular you feel like your judgment is suspect. But he's the asshole in this equation. You put your trust into someone who, it turned out, didn't merit your confidence in him.

So feel bad - but not forever.

And then start talking to people. Not just men and not just with dating in mind. Just, socialize and get out of the house a bit.

Treat yourself well (always) and take this experience and learn from it.