did I overreact?

I feel there's more to this putatively prickly plot than meets the eye.

Whether or not you found the pic while snooping through his phone, it appears that the two of you need to have a nice long chat followed by a nice long


think about the future.

You’ve removed that quote from context - in the same sentence she said that the dick pick happened early in their relationship.

What our OP left unsaid was 'how early', and what type of relationship they had at that stage. By asking, you would have found it was a casual relationship at that time.

You’ve also removed this quote from context. I wrote several parts after that, which answer this.