material girl asked:
Quote:Are you going home seething about the comments made and really upset by the things that have happened to people on them
For the most part, I'm able to regard poster's problems as problems rather that as extra pieces of personal anguish. I admit to spending some off-line time wondering what I could write that would help solve the poster's problem, but since I don't know most people personally, I can be dispassionate (and perhaps more helpful than I could be if I were emotionally involved.
Boris Kitten wondered:
Quote:On this forum, even comments that seem hurtful are mostly attempts at humor. I try not to take any forum comments too seriously. I've wondered why people here seem so much more caring & compassionate than other forums. I like it!
I think part of A2K's group ethos comes from the hard core of opinionated and compassionate crones--and seasoned, contankerous greybeards. Those of us over 55 were raised in a more mannered culture than exists today. Also, our maturity modifies our gut reactions.
I suspect that some of the caring and compassion can be attributed to alert and sophisticated moderators.
Many of us are veterans and refugees of the now defunct site, Abuzz, which was a Bulletin Board sponsored by the NYT's. We were pre-selected for general information and reinforced by an appreciation for wit and for incisive thinking. When Abuzz ran out of money for moderators, the site fell prey to trolls and deteriorated.
Material girl wondered:
Quote:Has a forum changed a part of your life forever?
I don't know about "changing" my life, but I know Abuzz and A2K have enriched my life. Because of my health and my husband's fading health, I'm limited geographically in my social contacts. My neighbors are Salt of the Earth people--but not intellectual speculators, not people given to word play; not people who are comfortable with world views.
First through Abuzz and then through A2K I have access to 31,000 interesting minds.
To quibble about words, my life is "enlarged" rather than "changed".