Life at home

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Grrr.... he's using all three counters and the table again - to make a single pizza. I have a 8" x 12" piece of counter. That's enough, I suppose, but it's still annoying.

I can do a pizza on a, say, 24" x 36" space, easy peasy, and I make them from scratch. Move his ass over!

Do I have to come into the kitchen?

He rolls out the dough on one space, he puts the pizza together in a different space, and he was grating cheese in a third spot. There were grocery bags on the kitchen table. Wow.

It's ok, Osso, I had enough room. It's just sort of amazing.

I hate that too! I prepare food in a small area of the counter, and
can't stand to spread out things here and there, but men are different
altogether

Will he at least share the pizza with you, littlek?

Containing the space makes sense re clean up of course....

He always offers and I always say no.

And, everything is in reach. No running from one side of the kitchen to the other .

To speak less antagonistically, I can see your HM3 is fundamentally missing a sense of boundaries. This will be - I can only presume - a problem for him for years to come, although he may not run into two women with the same exact sense of boundaries as you two, he will always be running into people about this.

I've no clue how to instill this sense of others' boundaries at a seeming adult age.

Why do you always say no?

hmm, maybe because he a) never washes his hands, b) uses towels that sit around crumpled up on countertops for weeks, c) is generally physically repulsive to us, d) leaves his pizza dish and crumbs sitting around for a day or two after he's done, e) has a superior demeanor about everything of his (his coffee is the best, his silverware is the best, his pizza is the best... gets really irritating).... and similar points, but i guess you get the drift.

Blue has a point...

i'm sure he does...but he doesn't have to live with him.

Osso, in reference to your last post on the previous page: I do very much realize that he will continue to have issues with future housemates. I also realize that Dasha and I may be excessively (ok, it's not 'may be', it's definitely) in our sense of boundaries. Our boundaries are far more dramatic with this guy because we don't like him. We are not terribly unreasonable people. We can put up with a lot. Either this guy is going to grate on everyone, or we are totally out of the mainstream. I would be willing to assume the former.

I almost feel responsible for teaching him how to live with people - for his sake. It's what keeps me from killing him - instills a small sense of sympathy.

Infra - I don't eat his food. I did try a couple dishes, but his cooking is far too rich for me and I end up with heartburn for a day or two after partaking. Then, on top of that, what Dasha said.

I just got lectured by his Aussie friend. Ozie came into this room (doors were closed) asking what I was doing. I was playing a computer game (morrowwind). He asked some questions and I went out to talk with them as they were getting ready to go out. He said I could be learning other things with more value than I was playing the game. Like I was wasting my time. Which I am. I told him that I was a little addicted and that It was a good distraction because I am broke and it's free fun. He told me I was being irrational for using a financial excuse. Huh? And then I told him that learning piano or languages (his examples of a better endeavor) would cost me money, but that this didn't. He obviously thinks I am a fool. Lovely. Just what I need during my friday night unwinding.

You should have told him that trying to pull his own head out of his ass would be a valuable thing to learn too.

I was sort of shocked. It was surprising commentary from someone I'd only spoken to three times before. Maybe it's a cultural thing.

Yeah, I guess that is possible. I just assumed that he was intentionally trying to put you down to make himself feel superior, since that's what Dag mentioned about the other guy at the top of this page. The superior demeanor stuff. I thought maybe this guy, being a friend of his, was like that too. I guess that could just be cultural differences too though.

I just can't say one way or another.

Nah, I don't think it's a cultural thing to be a pompous ass. He's just a dick like his buddy you live with. You should have told him you know plenty of language, and if he understands what "f*ck off" means?