You two clowns know how easy it is to find places on craigslist...just replace yourselves and move out.
And f*ck no, I'm putting that speedo on my head.
Did you guys have that house-meeting yet? How'd that go?
Nothing wrong with formulating house rules by the way. I think every shared apartment I was in had house rules of some sort - not always on paper, but if needed be, sure, on paper too. I dont think any offense is implicit, for those who know about sharing apartments, in pinning an A4 with house rules on, say, the bathroom door or something.
Makes future conversations a lot easier too. You dont have to phrase your things anymore in wordings that make it sound like its all about your personal preference ("I'd really prefer if you'd.."), which after all has the distinct disadvantage of making it seem that he'd be doing you a favour if he complied, rather than just what he's supposed to be bloody doing anyway. And you wouldnt have to explain every time again why something is an issue, with all the possibilities of arguing back and forth about it - you could just refer to how "hey, those are the rules, dude".
Course it would have been better to have started out with the rules, but then you just couldnt have known what was coming. And the important thing is that right at this point in time you still have the plausible timing of "hey, we didnt think this'd be necessary either, you know, i mean, our fault too, we just didnt think of it, but you must have noticed that there's been things not going so well, so no offence, but we decided to just draft a list of rules, to make it easier to keep an eye on things, so could you check yourself about sticking to them?". I mean, he's still the newbie, so still in the position where he'll feel somewhere too that he does need to adapt. If you're real nice you could add something like, "and i mean, if theres things you'd want to add to the rules too, we can talk about that as well" (which has the disavantage of possibilities of argument, but the advantage that he'd be more invested in the rules).
Now the timing for that would still be right, whereas it would be difficult to come up with a list of rules after all, from you & for him to adapt too, once he's been there for, like, five months. Whereas that'll be right about the time that you're really ready to kill him, literally I mean, so this might be a way to forestall all that?
Slappy Doo Hoo wrote:And f*ck no, I'm putting that speedo on my head.
Hey, didja hear that?! He's in!
Slappy! Thanks, man, we owe you one!
Here's a question I have. Not quite worth posting a whole thread on it. This upcoming weekend I'm going to a gathering at a bar for a friend's bday. My ex is likely going to be there, and I haven't spoken to her since I dumped her ass exactly 2 years ago. I could care less, and I wouldn't even to think to mention it, but I know how women think, which is "indescribable," and "tapped." Even though she's great, my current girlfriend is definitely both of the above. Should I tell her my ex will be there(assuming she comes with me), or just not mention it?
The only reason I ask, is I can see not telling her, her hearing from one of my friends who that girl is, then her getting pissed at me for not telling her. I don't know she would get pissed, but I know you're all screwed in the head, so I can see that happening.
Thank you in advance, and I wish you great fortune and happiness in life,
-Slappy Doo Hoo
XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX
LOLOLOLOL!!! OMG!!! ROLFOMAOLDO!!!
Sure, mention it in an offhand way, don't make a big deal about it. "By the way, my ex [name] [if you've already talked about her, or "a girl I used to date" if you haven't] will be there, just FYI. I don't expect there will be any problems or anything."
Slappy wrote:Here's a question I have. Not quite worth posting a whole thread on it. This upcoming weekend I'm going to a gathering at a bar for a friend's bday. My ex is likely going to be there, and I haven't spoken to her since I dumped her ass exactly 2 years ago. I could care less, and I wouldn't even to think to mention it, but I know how women think, which is "indescribable," and "tapped." Even though she's great, my current girlfriend is definitely both of the above. Should I tell her my ex will be there(assuming she comes with me), or just not mention it?
Slappy, have you ever seen that commercial where the guy wears flowered underwear or has matching outfits with his girlfriend? His buddies look at him and they are noticeably disturbed. There is a moment of inactivity and suddenly an enormous beer can drops from the sky and smashes him to dust.
That quote of yours deserves such a reaction. Look skyward, my friend.
For once I have to agree with gustav.
Yea, forget I said that. I'm not saying anything about it.
By the way littlek, Redbones has stone ipa on draft.
Years of experience dismissed. You'll be sorrrrrrrrrrrrrrryyyyyyyy.
(Or not, I almost voted the other way. Sort of depends on the person.)
whatever, slappy. just come on sunday.
luvya, dagglepuss.
Redbones..... I could drink kick ass beer, but there's not much there to eat for me.
littlek wrote:Redbones..... I could drink kick ass beer, but there's not much there to eat for me.
I dig it there. But either way, they do have a bar. 20 taps or so.
i think i am sort of adjusting to our weirdo #3, at least his behavior is not so shocking and i learnt to be much more blunt in communication. it sorta works. today i forbid him to move things in our knick-knack bookcase, where he wanted to put his cookbooks. i mean, he can put his cookbooks in any of the other bookcases in the living room, but i told him this one is off limits, because we like our knick knacks on display. i found out that stating things,rather than explaining, works. this is how it is. no, you cannot. period. funny that. it cut down the discussion time significantly.
also :"i have no clue, ask the landlord" seems to work pretty well.
it's not very much like me, but i'm learning.
That's the Catholic upbringing. The priest or nun forbids it and that is that. It works. End of discussion.
Sigh. But I'm a heathen and had a very liberal (in european sense) upbringing. so it's very unlike me to operate that way. but i must say things are a lot easier. today #3 and i both stayed at home all day and he didn't manage to outrage or upset me once! well,once, but that was handled super briefly. this may just work more or less ok.
Still sounds miserable to me.
But, then, I don't have much patience for fools unless they're funny...
nimh wrote:Did you guys have that house-meeting yet? How'd that go?
Nothing wrong with formulating house rules by the way. I think every shared apartment I was in had house rules of some sort - not always on paper, but if needed be, sure, on paper too. I dont think any offense is implicit, for those who know about sharing apartments, in pinning an A4 with house rules on, say, the bathroom door or something.
Makes future conversations a lot easier too. You dont have to phrase your things anymore in wordings that make it sound like its all about your personal preference ("I'd really prefer if you'd.."), which after all has the distinct disadvantage of making it seem that he'd be doing you a favour if he complied, rather than just what he's supposed to be bloody doing anyway. And you wouldnt have to explain every time again why something is an issue, with all the possibilities of arguing back and forth about it - you could just refer to how "hey, those are the rules, dude".
Course it would have been better to have started out with the rules, but then you just couldnt have known what was coming. And the important thing is that right at this point in time you still have the plausible timing of "hey, we didnt think this'd be necessary either, you know, i mean, our fault too, we just didnt think of it, but you must have noticed that there's been things not going so well, so no offence, but we decided to just draft a list of rules, to make it easier to keep an eye on things, so could you check yourself about sticking to them?". I mean, he's still the newbie, so still in the position where he'll feel somewhere too that he does need to adapt. If you're real nice you could add something like, "and i mean, if theres things you'd want to add to the rules too, we can talk about that as well" (which has the disavantage of possibilities of argument, but the advantage that he'd be more invested in the rules).
Now the timing for that would still be right, whereas it would be difficult to come up with a list of rules after all, from you & for him to adapt too, once he's been there for, like, five months. Whereas that'll be right about the time that you're really ready to kill him, literally I mean, so this might be a way to forestall all that?
Best house rules I ever saw were taped up in the kitchen of a house two women friends of mine shared with a gay man.
1. No stealing each other's men.
2. No sex in the living room.
Later one was added, after someone tried to give the man a pet pig.
3. No pigs.
