I hope at least u guys enjoyed it
Moving right along,
Today was a good day. I'm trying to learn this guy, see how to make communication manageable. He perks up when the talk is about Europe, which I can offer. He's probably smart, just dull. And a close talker, so we played the living room tango - he steps forward, I step back...halfway through the room until I walk off into the kitchen to do something, he follows, we continue to tango. I did have to tell him a few times that I am thoroughly uninterested in the topic we're discussing and that sorta worked. He has great plans about putting a stereo and dining table into the living room, which has me a little worried - he wants to cook with music on, which means the whole household would be engaged in his cooking, but we'll cross that bridge when we get there... or rather when his stuff gets here from Australia... Next week. Oy.
Don't you and K have writing or homework to do a lot of the time (or you could say you do)... Boy needs some ear phones or IPod, whatever.
Er, could you not stand so f/k'in close?
One of the great parts about my partner in the gallery and design business was that we liked, almost disc for disc, the same music, at virtually the same times of day. Boy, does that make things easier.
dagmaraka wrote: He has great plans about putting a stereo and dining table into the living room, which has me a little worried - he wants to cook with music on.
don't people talk over with each other how to put stuff in the shared areas? I mean, if I have a roommate who will start remodeling jobs in the shared area:painting, moving furniture, bringing his own stuff and doing other stuff, it would irritate me. He can do whatever he wants in HIS room. but when it comes to living room he needs to ask if it is ok with people who he lives with..right?
ossobuco wrote:Don't you and K have writing or homework to do a lot of the time (or you could say you do)... Boy needs some ear phones or IPod, whatever.
Er, could you not stand so f/k'in close?
One of the great parts about my partner in the gallery and design business was that we liked, almost disc for disc, the same music, at virtually the same times of day. Boy, does that make things easier.
Boy just bought an 80 gigabyte iPod yesterday, so he's at least set on that front. I hardly ever use living room, I don't think I'd eat there even when he puts dining table there, so if he plays music there at a reasonable volume, i don't care one iota. but littlek uses it a lot, that's where she works. which will be disturbing... Anyhow... like i said. we'll deal with it when the furniture arrives and we face the reshufflement of the apartment. In the meantime the communication has been more or less ok.
The house is just so eerily quiet and empty without Boo. I keep looking for her subconsciously.
NoNe wrote:dagmaraka wrote: He has great plans about putting a stereo and dining table into the living room, which has me a little worried - he wants to cook with music on.
don't people talk over with each other how to put stuff in the shared areas? I mean, if I have a roommate who will start remodeling jobs in the shared area:painting, moving furniture, bringing his own stuff and doing other stuff, it would irritate me. He can do whatever he wants in HIS room. but when it comes to living room he needs to ask if it is ok with people who he lives with..right?
eeyep. which is what we're talking about with him and trying to figure out together. so?
dagmaraka wrote:NoNe wrote:dagmaraka wrote: He has great plans about putting a stereo and dining table into the living room, which has me a little worried - he wants to cook with music on.
don't people talk over with each other how to put stuff in the shared areas? I mean, if I have a roommate who will start remodeling jobs in the shared area:painting, moving furniture, bringing his own stuff and doing other stuff, it would irritate me. He can do whatever he wants in HIS room. but when it comes to living room he needs to ask if it is ok with people who he lives with..right?
eeyep. which is what we're talking about with him and trying to figure out together. so?
if a guy is a good person he will understand ur concearns.
he really seems to be a nice guy, if he was interested in talking to u, he must be friendly sort of..
Yep, he is friendly. A little too much so.
Ah, yes, the conversation tango - he does stand far too close. I seem to always be trying to walk away from him. He came out of his bedroom with the ipod on and started to tell me all about it. I, for context, just worked all week, had class ALL weekend, and had just gotten back into town at 11:30 pm. I was making trips to my car and moving nit to proper parking, had to unpack, set up for my oncoming work week and take a shower before I can go to bed. I don't have time to chat about his new toy. He doesn't catch these things.
And, None, I don't care if someone sheds hair, what I care about is that that person never once cleaned the bathroom (or her hair off the floor).
Uhoh, now he's singing to music I can't hear. I hate that! He's wearing the headphones everywhere and doesn't realize how loud he's being (at 2 a.m.).
Oy! Reminds me of the *joys* of shared living. Men in particular, are, um, interesting.
Now that I live alone though there are times I definetly do miss it. Always company, always a funny (if only in hindsight) story to tell.
Do you all have more than one bathroom?
We have two bathrooms. I share with the guy. He hangs his banana sling on the back of the door after swimming. <cringe>
Where would you prefer he hang it, assuming it is dripping wet?
Surely not in the shower!
All that is fine. But is he cute and dishy?
He's Italian, Prince - of course, he must be charming.
CJane - he's the portuguese - not the italian.
Eva, I would prefer that he feel free to hang it until done dripping and then keep it in his room. We have 2 bar-towel racks and two hooks in the bathroom - not really lots of space for storing his slingshot.
Then tell him that!
(And mention that you don't leave your underwear hanging in the shared bathroom, either. Right?)
littlek wrote:CJane - he's the portuguese - not the italian.
Eva, I would prefer that he feel free to hang it until done dripping and then keep it in his room. We have 2 bar-towel racks and two hooks in the bathroom - not really lots of space for storing his slingshot.
If i were you, I would start hanging my socsk, bathrobe, my bf's panties and other stuff the same way he is doing.
Bad Advice, a bad, bad, bad one, I admitt
I was, indeed, thin king about noting that I do not leave my stuff in there. There just isn't enough room for us to be able to use it that way. I did tell him I didn't want it hanging in the shower ONLY because I already knew that he uses the bathroom to store the thing (he was using the other bathroom while dasha was gone). When I told him not to use the shower I also told him I'd prefer him not to use the bathroom at all. Dasha and I don't leave our wet things in the bathrooms.
I am admiring of both you and dag for this sharing of space.. but the fellow needs clues, given his and your non understanding of household behavior.
It might be he hates whatever rules you put down, and marches out (oh, well) or else learns from them for his next time, or even now, given you see him as a basically ok human. But, to speak on his side, I am thinking he needs clues.
