Absolutely not, lil'k.
I agree with the others..."Man, you sure are lucky to have a lab where you can use a computer when yours breaks. I wouldn't have such luck if it were me."
I'd never let anyone use my computer. Not for any reason. Nope. Never. I can't afford to lose any files or have any messed with. And there's too much confidential stuff on it. No, no, no, no, no. It'd be almost as bad as letting someone use my toothbrush.
hey Eva can I use your puter, just for a sec? littlek lets me use hers all the time but I'm dribble tofu onto her keyboard. kiss kiss.
Dys - when I visited Cav in the hospital last night we thought about you. The dinner choices for tonight were ......... tofu and veggies or a peanut butter sandwich
okokok.... I get it. I just feel terrible telling her that I won't let her use it - she is in school and all. Kicky is right, I'll prolly cave, if not at the start, then later on down the road.
But, my computer is so personal to me. And she used it when she had a cold and then I got one. And and and... she has a friggin lab!
Ok, I need a mantra. Something more than nononononooooooo.
Good grief.
Sending cav a selection of meatballs from the SF chronicle, five different recipes, scarf. I won't type them out, I am just mailing the flavors...
Forget a mantra and learn No. It is your computer. I would have no qualms, in fact I'd be in some sort of fight stance.
Back down? What is this dissolving weak ****, not to be insulting, but really, little K. Your computer is your's and not for the whim of the group. I don't get why you would even consider letting her use it.
No, Dys. You cannot use my computer.
osso - you're right, I do need to learn to say no.
But, I put myself in her shoes and I wonder how I'd feel. Not even as a student, but just as the avid computer user that I am. If I was going to be without my computer for 2+ weeks, what would I do?
I wouldn't just start by asking for usage of my housemates' puters. I'd use my sisters when the timing was right, but she lives a half hour away. But, at home, I might ask if I could slip in to check email no and then if one of their laptops was idle for a minute. We do have an internet cafe in the square......
hmmm
I don' care, with this person, No. It's not the bathroom sink, it's your computer.
osso clenches osso fists.
hehehe..... I dunno, the tub is maybe almost as personal as my computer is tome.
Hmmm...I have had housemates before that I felt uncomfortable with like this. For some reason, you feel like you have to keep the peace. I mean, there's a fine balance you have to kind of maintain when you live with somebody. But yeah, the computer does seem like a lot to give up to somebody who you can't stand.
Maybe you should create a "List of Grievances". Write down all the things she has done in the past few months that have been selfish, rude, annoying or just plain stupid, and how those things affected you. And don't be shy. Put everything in there. And put some feeling into it. Then, when you are done, you will do the following:
You will talk to her as soon as possible, and you will say, "No, you cannot use my computer". She will say, "Why not?"
You will say, "I'm so glad you asked." You will hand her the list and walk away, preferably to your room, where your computer will be waiting. You will lock the door. You will sit down. We will all laugh and cheer you on as you tell the tale on A2K. It will be the greatest moment of your life. Trust me. Do it. You will thank me later.
I can't lock my door! Waaah!
I should make a list just to help me say no.
good post, by the way, kicky.
Eh, just say No.
Of course you don't need to obey me, but you should. NO.
Now let's see if she 'heard' yes when we talked about it earlier. I don't know how anyone could stand to use my computer anyway, my desk is right up against the cat box and is covered with crap.
My cat just made a huge stink. I can't imagine sitting next to that crap.
oopsie, the desk is covered with my papers and gadgets, not actual cat crap.
I seem to be fairly tolerant of cat box stench, so I have to keep it here where I'll stay on top of the stinkers more efficiently. I would hate to leave it out in the apartment's common areas for a couple reasons.
