So confused

At this point I wouldn’t be surprised if he has someone he’s entertaining on the side, if that’s the case then good luck to the both of them.

You’re right. I shouldn’t pay him any more attention and focus on me.

Really? the guy went all out trying to meet your expectations and you think he's seeing someone else?

Really?

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I was going to warn you about Punkey's advice, much as chai did but ... really?

Perhaps it is better for him to not hear from you again.

We gave advice, good advice, and after every instance, you turned around and made exact opposite statements, and continue on with the "I'm an idiot"

If you want respect, stop with the coy self deprecation.

No low blows,, just repeating what your responses have been. You put yourself out there, you need to be prepared for others opinions.

I'm ridiculing the fact that you keep falling back on the "I'm such an idiot" crap, now along with the other self pitying statements in your last post.

Nothing else to be said here. Either talk to the guy and start over, or keep repeating what an idiot you are, and what should I do.

btw, I'm not so sure this someones "real life" No way for anyone but you to know if you're just making stuff up to post. Don't care. At least don't care any more.

Again, good luck.

I said so based on some of the things he said when we were discussing things. He said that he felt a “connection” with a few girls at a party (12 years younger than him) or random women at the gym. He said he didn’t pursue them, but I don’t know what to believe now. I remember that day of him being at the party and mentioning girls there and how he’s not into them.

But ya see Beth, that jus let's things get more complicated and confusing!

Yay!

I thanked you over and over. Self pity? Maybe. This has been one of the worst years of my life. My dad died last May in a traumatizing way and I was there to see it all. I’m not my strongest self, sorry that upset you. You can only imagine how it makes me feel.

I want to ask you one more question, if we do become friends, couldn’t I stay in the friend zone forever? My fear is if he never felt that spark, he never will?

Back here to update. Sorry Last time I was on here I was such a confused epic mess. I'm always in my head and this truly threw me off on all levels, I apologize.

It's been 5 weeks since all this went down. I didn't talk to him at all since we said goodbye at the airport, but I was still really unable to deal with lots of my feelings, I haven't shared everything on here publicly and I don't think I should, but anyway I felt like I was wronged by him, so I wrote an email that was respectful and friendly and told him how I felt about everything then ended up saying that I wish him the best. I didn't expect a reply but he replied an hour later. He took responsibility for many things, and I did too.

He apologized for acting so rash and almost aggressive with the kissing and other sexual things, he said he was so nervous that I wouldn't like him or be impressed by him. He said misses what we had and how hearing that I'm moving on hurt him but he's gonna try to be happy for me.

We emailed back and forth a little asking about each other, and he was actually flirting with me again and bringing up memories we had during the trip and how fond he is so of them. I didn't want to get sucked back in so I didn't reply anymore. At least for now anyway.

I'm doing what you guys said, baby steps. At least now it feels like we can one day be friends again. I don't know if there will ever be more, or if we'll get back to talking, but I can't go on forever pretending like I don't know him.