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Mon 13 Nov, 2017 07:47 am
Hi,
I've been with my boyfriend for 2,5 years and it's been a great relationship. We met while we were both studying in Paris, what a fairytale, and I completely trusted him. Until I was on his computer a few days ago (with his permission) and he had an email still open. Specifically, an email with all sorts of documents that he sent from my computer without my permission. Hell, I have never even given my password, so I don't even know how he got into my computer. The documents include personal diary entries (MS word), pictures and even my browser history. I am so freaked out.
Men, is this normal behavior?
@JennFlennf,
I am a man. No, this is not normal behavior. He is invading your privacy and betraying your trust.
I would be pissed is my girlfriend did this to me. In my opinion you have every right to be pissed. This would likely be enough for me to end a relationship.
@JennFlennf,
Sounds really creepy to me. Why, after 2.5 years, would he suddenly do this? Or has he been doing this all along and you have just now caught him? Either way, I would not be happy at all if I were you.
@CoastalRat,
Yes, I found out recently. I don't know since when he has been doing this, but I know its been at least a year
@JennFlennf,
Truly, you must know it's not normal.
He is a scumball for doing that. No excuse. He gets the door shown to him, if it were me.
Does he know you know yet? If not, you could have some fun.
@JennFlennf,
I would do something like .... hmmm let's see.... I might send an email to my best friend saying that I am distraught and can't figure out how I got HIV. I would write that I can't believe that [insert boyfriend's name] would cheat on me, and I only cheated that one time.
Then I would act like nothing happened. Let him sweat it out.
@JennFlennf,
That is wrong of him. He is insecure and has trust issues.
@JennFlennf,
Nope. This is not normal at all. Run, run for the hills. I'm married and if my husband did this, I'd be filing for divorce. If he'd go so far as to acquire all of your personal information like that (without even having access to passwords) there is no telling what he could do.