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Sat 11 Nov, 2017 03:25 pm
Hi, im new here.
I just want to write somewhere and hope somebody can give me advice.
So i have this guy friend who i have had feelings for forth and back in some years now. When i first liked him i was with another and i told my friend how i felt. He just wanted to be friends. Then my ex boyfriend and i took i break and me and my friend kissed but didn’t sleep together cause he dudn’t want to ruin out friendship.We did cuddled alot and kissed sometimes. My ex and i had broken up and since summer things have changed with me and my friend, now its more kissing for like hours and touching esch other. We have had sex too. But he dosen’t say anything that he likes me. When i try to talk to him about me not wanting to be hurt or that i don’t won’t to like him like that again he just smiles and kisses me. He does that a lot look at me, while he is caressing me and he smiles. And i get confussed does he likes me as a friend or more? the latest time we said goodbye we have kissed. When we don’t see other we don’t talk except when we planing to see each other. He isn’t much of a writer. We are always at his house. So not in public just when we walked we sometimes hold hands.
So what do you think? are we just friends with benefits?
/confused Alice
@fairyalice,
This isn't a boyfriend.
If you want anything at all to change, then you two need to have a conversation, not just some smiling and hand holding. Adults (I am assuming you are both over 18) don't just make cow eyes at each other. When they're in real relationships, they talk.
If he won't talk, then that's all that you need to know.
@jespah,
Yes. This sounds like 'friends without benefits'.
@jespah,
thanks for answering. i tried to talk to him several times’ about this. I have said i dom’t want to be hurt again by him. He knows very well how much i liked him. Whenever i try to talk to him he just start kissing me so i guess my answer is he is playing with me. He is not good with talking about feelings at all. He has never had a real grown relationship like me. I know that in my heart he diesn’t feel like i do but i still go to him even when i know i gonna get hurt. I tried so many times’ to get over him to not see him. But i always end up seeing him anyway. Its hard when we have common friends to avoid each others. I really don’t know what to do
@fairyalice,
What you "do" is cut off the "benefits".
Then you can see just how much of a "friend" he really is.
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