Wed 8 Nov, 2017 10:14 am
A month and a half ago, I began a relationship with a woman outside of my marriage. Before anyone crucifies me for that, please know that I am aware that it is wrong. I'm not looking for a lecture, I'm looking for advice. Anyway, this woman is amazing. She and I have a lot in common, are both very quirky, and are both attracted to each other. She knows that I am married and is fine balancing that in her life, as she does values her independence. We really are crazy for each other and talk nearly every day. The other day, she was shy to inform me that she had been "picked" to be someone's guest for a black tie event. She showed me the dress she will be wearing and it is beautiful. But now, I'm crazy jealous. She says not to worry, but how can I not? We haven't been able to have a nice, romantic night out yet. We've had drinks, coffee, dinner, and walks in the park. But nothing quite like what she's going to. I know it's hypocritical, but here she will be going out looking radiant with someone who clearly has more money and more abilities to date her than I. Yes, I love my wife, but it hasn't been great for years. The woman I have been seeing has helped me discover what it means to be romantic. And now someone else is getting that chance. How do I turn off this jealousy? Looking for advice from people who can relate.
Divorce your wife so she has the same opportunity to find what you are claiming to have found with this new woman. Then you won't have to worry about the new woman being "picked" (whatever that means) to be someone else's guest at an event. (Sorry, but I get an image of a bunch of women lined up with some guy walking up and down the line and saying, why yes, this one here will do nicely.)
Yes, the "picked" thing is the image I have in my head, too. She hasn't elaborated on that but I'll be seeing her in person tonight and will get her to elaborate more on it.
Is this woman an escort?
Who bought the dress?
Beautiful women come and go.
If you are having a nice time, maybe that's what she's supposed to be doing.
I don't think she's an escort. I've never got that impression from her at all, so that would completely surprise me.
The dress is a rental.
I have a nice time with her, but am jealous she will have a nice time with someone else.
Apparently she is not exclusive to you.
If you were in love as much as you say, she would not be going out on this date.
Get over it.
She tolerates you going back home to your wife each night, if you want a monogamous relationship then pick one woman and stick to her.