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Is No Contact stupid if I want to be with him or productive?

 
 
Reply Sat 21 Oct, 2017 02:35 pm
Ex needs time to figure out what he wants and the time hasn't be awful for me focusing on me. It is a game though and while he wants more of a challenge in our relationship I am not big on games. Everything I read says I better start being better at playing games, uh. So is no contact stupid if I want to be with him and should i make sure we have open communication going still or let the silence go on?

I need advice because I really want to text and tell him I am flying to NC for job interviews today. I know he is there too but not sure if he would respond or if it would hurt to make contact so soon.
 
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Reply Sat 21 Oct, 2017 03:37 pm
@mmurp123,
Playing games is stupid. Full stop.
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vikorr
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Reply Sat 21 Oct, 2017 05:48 pm
@mmurp123,
Stop playing those games.

Why do you want to play games where there is a winner? Doing so means someone must be a loser...and why would anyone want to be in a relationship with a partner who insists on them being a loser?

Make your decisions based on what is necessary for you to respect yourself. If you keep asking this at each decision, it eventually becomes subconscious, and:
- (eventually) your respect yourself more; and
- (eventually) decisions become so much easier.

Self respect is never about playing to win. Its about being true to yourself, and by extension, being genuine with others.
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