Wed 11 Oct, 2017 11:36 am
About two years ago my really close friend and i kissed. We were really drunk(well, i was, he not so much) and i barely remember. Before that i heard from other friend that he is in love with me and i guess i just wanted to know how he really feels. After that kiss he asked me what i want to do about that, what it meant to me, and something like that, but i told him i want for us to stay just friends.
Since then we were not so close, meanwhile i found boyfriend, and i didn't see my friend during my relationship, about few months.
When i broke up we started to see each other again, we rebuild our friendsheep. We were really close whole summer.
Few days ago he told me he is in love with me since that kiss. I wasn't so shocked because there were moments when i thought about that. I told him i'm scared and i don't want to lose him. And then i kissed him, don't know why. I guess i just didn't wanted him to feel bad and that kiss felt right at the moment. At the end i told him i would think about it. He is happy now, he thinks i feel the same. The thing is, i don't know how i feel.
I think about him all day (don't know what to do), sometimes i imagine our future together, and it feels good. But in the other hand i think about breake up, and how i will lose him, because there's no happy break up. I really need him as a friend, but maybe our friendship is already ruined.
However, i don't know what to do.
So, if you could tell me your opinion, and give me some advice i would be very grateful.
Honestly I have been in the same position before(Pretty much). Ultimately the decision is up to you, whatever decision you make, make sure its the right one that you want. Once you figure out what it is you want then be honest about it to him, if he is truly your friend then he should be able to understand and accept the decision you made. In the end be honest with him. Good Luck.
Take it easy.
One kiss doesn't mean love.
Have you and your close friend tried dating?
No, we stayed friends after first kiss. That's why i'm so afraid, once we cross that line it's never going to be the same.
It's okay to be scared of what might happen when you cross that line. Of course its not going to be the same afterwards, but that doesn't mean its going to be a bad thing.
People can be friends, date / get married, split, and still be friends.
Well it isn't the same anymore and you both clearly got feelings for eachother so it's not bad to take it further if you both want to.